How could he?!?!?!?!

Question

Last night I went out on a date with my boyfriend. Nothing big, we just saw Mama Mia and my boyfriend's dad drove us and dropped us off and was seeing Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants with my boyfriend's sister. It's only our third date, but I thought my dad trusted me. When my boyfriend and I kissed during the romantic part, I heard a yelp. I turned around and saw my DAD! I gasped and jumped up and ran out of the theater. My dad and boyfriend followed me out and there was yelling and screaming(me "I hate you! I thought you trusted me!", my boyfriend "Dylan calm down!" and my dad "You're too young! You're only 15! You shouldn't have a boyfriend!")and a big scene. It ended with me crying and following my dad to his car and not talking to him. He tried to explain why he followed us and spied on us("I can''t trust you!", although I've never done anything to break his trust.)and that I was still a little girl. But I wouldn't talk to him. He's tried to bribe me with scrambled eggs and french toast for breakfast, and buying me my favorite chocolates, but I'm not taking bribes.

Now all I want to do is talk it over. He treats me like a baby and it was hard enough to let him let me date.

HELP! How can I talk it over without my dad talking to me like I'm some kid?

PS: Sorry if this is in the wrong section.

Answer 1

tell him your grown up and u need privacy

Answer 2

I would go talk to him.  Tell him that he hurt you by not trusting you.

Then tell him that he didn't raise a foolish girl!  You know right from wrong, and it's time that you started to make those choices for yourself.

Assure him that you will ALWAYS be his 'little girl', and that you will need him for things.  But that you need a chance to become the woman that you WILL BE!

Keep it open, calm and kind.  Appologize for saying that you hate him, and ask that he trusts you until the time you do something!  

A kiss in a theather is innocent enough, he's probably just having a hard time dealing with the fact that you're out there with *boys* and he knows exactly how boys think!

Good luck!

Answer 3

Your Dad loves you, but what he did was a little out of line. He allowed you to go on the date and yet he followed you. My rule for dating has always been: if your fourteen and older, you can date, but there has to be a chaporone(someone over 18) near by or with you until your 17. And you DID have a chaporone(your boyfriend's father).

Sit your dad down and say this "Dad, I'll always be your little girl, but I have to grow up. I won't do anything stupid and I didn't mean it when I said 'I hate you', I was just really mad. I'm not a little kid anymore, I can take on big responsibilites and I won't do anything without asking you first. I need to grow up." Try not to yell or scream. Use "I" sentances not "you" sentances.

Good luck!

Answer 4

Wow. Your dad is overprotective. Talk to your mom.

Answer 5

Well was kinda in the same situation when i was young(im21) my parents wouldnt let me do anything so i got sneeky and did stuff behind their back, but i would in your talk let them know YOU COULD be sneeky and do stuff but your trying to be honest and go on dates by letting them know, telling them you could do other things like sneek out, do stuff at school, skip school to do things, just let it be known you are mature becaue you dont want to be sneeky. And i would ask to be trusted until you give a reason to not be. Best Luck

Answer 6

Well, by running out of the theater you did act like a little girl.  If you were not doing anything you are not old enough to be doing, then why did you act like you were? And, by him being there doesn't mean he doesn't mean he doesn't trust you. I mean what can you really do in a movie theater.  And, it doesn't sound like he's trying to bribe you.  It sounds like he's trying to feed ya....

Answer 7

Ok dear!  First, you are not in the wrong!  Ok!  Your boyfriend's dad was there too but just seeing a different movie....no harm in that!  Your dad sounds extremely over-protective...which is a horrible thing.

You need to go to him with a firm voice and let him know your feelings.  Let him know that yes you will always be his little girl even when you are old enough to get married.  Let him know you love that about him but you are also growing up and would like to be treated with respect and dignity.

I think just being honest with him in a patient and calm voice may help the situation.

Let him know when he does things like this it only pushes you further away from him.

Good luck, hun!

Answer 8

I would just go up and talk to your dad. Seeing as you haven't been talking to him, and he's giving you bribes, that means he probably wants to talk to. If I was in your situation I would tell him, "You said you couldn't trust me, but how am I supposed to trust you?" He went to your movie to spy... and that takes away your trust in him. Tell him you are old enough to make your own choices and feel that he should give you a chance at it. It's your life anyway...

Answer 9

tell ur father  u are grown abd not the little iresposible child he known .   tll him u will not go and do follish things and he should trust you and respect ur desisions in life

Answer 10

Your dad just dont want to end up pregnant. Okay, maybe a bit overprotective but he loves you and only wants you to be safe. A lot can go on in a movie theater. He has a lot of work cut out for him, with your mother not there this is all on him, raising girls is not easy.

Try to look at it in his shoes.

Answer 11

Tell your dad that you are responsible and that you are old enough to be trusted. If he doesn't feel comfortable about the date you are on, make a deal with him to make him feel comfortable. For example, let him drive you guys to the place you are going to. Just remember there is a line and make sure he doesn't cross it.

Sorry about your mom.