How could you go about finding your biological father if you only know his name & where he lived at the time?

Question

Thats all I know about him. My biological mom was killed not long after I found her and theres no one else that knows anything.

Answer 1

try doing a background check

Answer 2

You can try Zabasearch.com.  It's free and often lists the birth years.  That will narrow things down.  You can also try using Intelius.com.  It's under $10.00 to run a search, no matter how many results come up.   It will also try to list approximate ages for people, narrowing down those 30 men.  From there, you may still have to contact several in order to get the right guy.  This happens sometimes, but it's worth it.  I called several incorrect people while searching for my siblings, but I found them.  I was lucky with my father, as his name was pretty unique, so there was only one listing.  It turned out to be he.

I'm sorry about you first mom's death.  Mine died 7 months before I located her, which I did via the help of my first father.  

ETA:

Botz makes a very good point about non-identifying information.  Sometimes these clues really help to narrow a search, or even point us in a good direction.  To find out more about ordering your non-id, go to the link below and click on the state in which you were adopted.

http://adopteerights.net/nulliusfilius/?...

Answer 3

if you want to e-mail me what you have, i'll se what i can find.

Answer 4

What else do you know about him?  Do you have non-identifying information (from the state or the agency that handled your adoption)?

I know those are all the 'facts' you have about him...I understand.  But there may be 'tidbits' that you don't think are important that could help.

Let me tell you why!

I had only the same 'facts' that you did (and only after my natural mom told me his name) and was just as stumped.  She didn't know anything current about him as I was searching for him after finding her in my early 30s.  She'd been out of contact with him since just before I was 2.

I used some of the 'non-identifying' information the agency gave me to do some google searches and try to piece things together.  In the case of my father, he was very musically gifted.  Having inherited his love for music, if not his talent, I figured that would be something he's probably still doing.  I was right!  I found an old obscure program from a church music thing he did when he was about 20.  That had his parents' names in it.  When I looked for more things with all three names, I came across another name (a friend) that kept popping up in music-related things with my father.  When I 'googled' just the friend's name -- I found out he is a college professor and GOT HIS EMAIL ADDRESS!!!

I had to really think about it (I did for about 3 weeks) and then I emailed my father's friend and tried to ask about my father without giving away too much about the 'nature' of my relation to him.  The friend, it turned out, had known my dad for almost 40 years (since long before I was born) and correctly understood who I was -- even without my telling him.

He sent an email back to me, telling me that he is still best friends with my father and that he'd give my dad all my contact info and let him decide what to do.  I got my first email from my natural dad less than FOUR HOURS LATER!!!  What a miracle!

We've been in contact for almost 3 years now and it's awesome!  My dad recently got married (last December) and has a new baby daughter -- my sister!  It's kinda weird to be in my 30s and have a 4 month old sister...but I wouldn't want to have missed any of this!

I don't know if this will work for you or not.  I just wanted to tell my story to (possibly) give you some ideas.  I hope it works out the way you want it to and that you'll find what you are looking for -- hopefully more.

I would STRONGLY recommend that you request your 'non-identifying' information as soon as possible.  Some agencies charge a fee for this.  I got mine for about $10 and just two years later, I learned that the agency my parents used is now charging $50 for that same info.  *sigh*  It sucks!  I hate having to pay for information about myself.  It's just wrong!

Also, check out any links offered by "LaurieDB" if she answers.  She's very connected and knows her adoption-search 'stuff'.  I'll check back, if she doesn't answer this Q, I'll try to find and add a link here to another answer from her.

Best of luck to you!!  You can do it!!