How did people come up with the ideas of hypochondria, playing the victim, making excuses & seeking attention?

Question

I feel like it's cruel for people to falsely accuse me of this, & I don't even have a history of doing it.

It's like, if my stomach hurts or I'm dizzy, people think I'm making excuses to not do things, & they think I'm a hypochondriac. I suffer Irritable Bowel Syndrome. & I experience vertigo & tinnitus, too. It really is a miserable feeling when you're made to do a physically exhausting task, & people don't care how you feel.

I suffer OCD, anxiety, depression, & Tourette's. If my face is twitching, & I tell people I can't help it, they think I'm making up excuses & using my disability as a crutch.

Because I'm different from others, I don't have to do anyone anything, & people bully me. Yes, I'm 25 with a college degree, still getting bullied by people of any age. 60-yr. old people would try to pick a fight with me. & I hate when people say I'm paranoid & it's all in my head. That's not the case. & if someone gives me a bloody nose, the cops or anyone else in authority, such as a social worker, psychiatrist, etc., say "I don't believe you. I think you did it yourself, & you're looking for attention & playing the victim. You can't be the victim all the time. There's something you do to provoke people to pick with you."

I'm 25 with a college degree (BA in Spanish), & no one believes anything that comes out of my mouth because of the stereotype of (crazy) people. People treat me like I'm too stupid to know left from right, & no one allows me to make my own decisions, based on things I did when I was 6 yrs. old. EX: @ age 6, I might've given someone 50 cents, & they never paid me back. So, people, such as my family, psychiatrists, social workers, etc. think I don't know how to manage $$. This is SO ridiculous!

How do I deal with this?

Answer 1

well stop playing the victim. you are only a victim if you let yourself be one.  its only verbal bulling if you let it get to you. there are only 3 things in this world you can control. what you say, what you do, and how you think. speak to your doctor about cures or perscriptions for your ibs and other medical conditions. your anxiety talk to a psycholigst and get them to teach you how to cope. you are being a self fullfilling prophacy.  where what people and you say about yourself is becoming true. take a look at how others percieve you.

if you dont want to be labelled that way change it. fight back stop letting them get to you work through the pain. when you have a panic attack or what ever sit and relax centre yourself. hey i go in an anxiety attack when i cut myself or get blood taken so you know what i did i went everyweek for a blood test till i could sit their with out freakin out. i still feel the need to vomit but i calm and i work past the feeling.

see a psychologist and work through it thier is no reason you cant lead a normal life. and why does everyone know this about you thats what makes you sound like a hypocondriac

Answer 2

I suffer from GAD and I get severe chest pain from that.. and doctors did all kinds of medical tests in the past.. so nothing was found wrong with my heart or lungs.. and when I lived in the Netherlands they made me go and see a psychiatrist.. and I can read Dutch.. they wrote I was a hypochondriac...  and I later moved to Canada and I was outraged and told my nicer doctor what the Dutch doctor had written in my dossier.. and he said.. to call someone a hypochondriac doesn't really mean there is nothing wrong or that the person makes it up.. the pain is very real. only there is nothing organically wrong... but you do suffer the pain...  but as they can't find a medical reason they call it ''hypochondria or they call it anxiety if it causes physical symptoms as well ....anxiety causes a lot of unpleasant symptoms and they are very real.. but caused by some inner fears or a chemical imbalance or whatever.. different reasons and depression needs to be treated.. as that can lead to suicide. so psychiatric treatment is necessary and medical treatment and Your OCD and Tourettes all that is real..  but it comes from a nervous complaint.. you are not a hypochondriac you do  have a real illness...but the illness stems more from the mind.. that doesn't mean you are crazy.. but your mind.. makes you to have obesessive Compulsive disorder and anxiety and depression..  and Tourettes syndrome often appears together with OCD or instead of..  so these are mental dysfunctions more than physical ones... but you do really suffer from all of the above....same as my pain is real.. just because they don't find a physical reason .. they call it hypochondria...and I am also the last person who wants to see a doctor.. I much would prefer to do without medication and doctors... and I am sure it's the same for you.. your life is restricted if you suffer from all those complaints .. Nobody would voluntarily do that to get attention.. I want no attention at all same as you.. I much would prefer to see the doctors backside... x*x

Answer 3

It's simple really, you just stay quiet. Don't tell people you have problems. We all have problems, we have find life difficult. I know you've heard that before but it's true. The majority of people don't have much empathy for others so don't expect it. Keep stum and get on with your life. Be stoical. Then you'll get respect. Then they'll think, 'my goodness, she's got all these problems and yet look how she just gets on with it.'