How did trying 2 concieve affected your life?

Question

Hi, here is my story.

I am 25 yrs old been married for 5 yrs and been trying 2 concieve for 4 yrs. I was one of those skinny girls who didn't put on weight. My family asked me when me and hubby was planning on haveing kids, I started putting on weight and started 2 believe I am pregnant, I believed it very strongly, yet I was still getting my period. I was at the doctors office every 2 days and demanded a test. every test said negative, to make things worse everyone kept asking me if I was pregnant and everytime the test said negative my heart broke into a million pieces and I would get depressed and put on more weight. I would pick up the pieces and start 2 believe that I am pregnant again. I finally broke down the other day and told the doctor that for 5 yrs I believed I was pregnant every month. He told me seeing as we are struggeling 2 concieve he will do tests on me and my husband. We are haveing tests done on the 1st september.

Now 20 kilos overweight and I still think I am pregnant every month and everytime that stick has a negative my heart still breaks into a million pieces and my periods are irregular each month. They use 2 be 30 days, every month since I was 14, but the past 4 yrs they never are regular. They are either light, heavy, 1 day long,spotting for 1 day or 5days long. Sorry 2 write this looooooong story, but I just felt all of you might understand how I feel.

And 2 think all this started with one question. " When are you planning on haveing kids?" If only it was that easy!!!

Answer 1

we have the same story my dear. Been married for 5 years and gained lot of weight from 110lbs to 145lbs. Trying to conceive is very difficult and stressful. It made me fat and miserable. But I am trying my best to lose weight now and forget about getting pregnant and be contented with my adopted daughter. Good luck.  

Answer 2

horribly

i used to take a test every month for the last two years, as every sickness, dissness, tiredness etc i thought was a pregnancy syptom, now i dont take tests as i cant stand another negitive.

ive put on weight even though i dont eat that much, but i dont want to diet or do lots exercise in the possibility i am pregnant, so i dont harm the 'baby'

regular s*x can be a chore,

as well as remembering to take my tempeture when i get up to see if im ovulating and remembering to take my vitamens.

as i have irregual periods i panic as i think ive been having symptoms and think is this a period or a miscarriage and because i can never know its heartbreaking.

also seeing people who you see who pregnant or who have children treating them bad makes me think why can they have children and i cant, sometimes if i see a baby i cant look as it leaves me with such a emptyness in the pit of my stomach.

Answer 3

Hi i just read your reply in my question and i felt like u related my story. Even i feel i am pregnant for last 4-5 months but then nothing happens. We had gone to a Gynac last month for a consultation and she asked us to take our Ultrasound test for me and a sperm test for my hubby. But then we never get that kick to go and check it, i dont know for what fear...but this time we are really determined to go and take the tests. Wishing you a loads of luck and BABY DUST!!

Answer 4

I understand where you coming from! I've really my heart crushed when I thought I was positive, to go into the doctor and get a sono to find out I have a huge cyst growing on the ovary! So this makes it even worse because now I have to deal with surgery (and 2 weeks recovery no s*x:~( so that is another month wasted...I just keep asking myself "why me?" this is supposed to be easy!! like they say in s*x ed. have s*x one time and you will get pregnant! yea right if only it was really that easy...

Answer 5

I know exactly how you feel. The pressure from everyone when you get married to have children is unreal. Literally the day after my wedding the questions started. Can people not think before they open their mouths and realise some people just take a bit longer to get pregnant than others and their constant questions do nothing but upset us.  Keep the chin up and dont mind everyone else.  And relax about the the whole ttc thing. Perhaps thats why your periods are all over the place. The stress everyone is putting on you can play havoc with periods.  Relax and see how things go. If nothing has happend in a couple of months go to the doc and have those tests done. Best of luck, my thoughts are with you

Answer 6

I just got really tired every month from so much 'trying' around ovulation time.

great fun though!