How did u come to know where you belong?

Question

Hi there.. i been searching a lot of for who iam.. and all of these come to no sense, i dont feel like i belong to my family.. even to friends.. i have a thought of where i belong but man i been searching a lot and i guess the thoughts was just thoughts it was never reality.... so in the physical aspect ofcourse i belong to my family thats a reality but i feel there still something lacking?... something deeper pls help elders there.. pls nuture me ...

Answer 1

It comes with age.  I don't think you are supposed to know exactly where you belong.  You just come to a point where you are content with yourself and where you are in life.  I went through the same thing you are going through when I was in my early to mid 20's.  You'll get over it in a few years.

Answer 2

We are born into a family and that family's circumstance.  And while many believe that blood is thicker than water, I tend not to agree.  Many people feel isolated within their families...as they somehow feel disconnected and very unlike their siblings and parents.  Blindly following a rule that says you MUST make that family the centre of your world will lead you to feeling as you do now...alone and unhappy.

As humans, we are social creatures...and do not live happily alone.  Therefore, you need to find a group of people, or one person, who is similar to you and the way you think.  Someone in whose company you can truly feel comfortable and most like yourself.  And once you find them (and I don't mean a love interest, necessarily), you will know that you are truly HOME.

Answer 3

This is man's oldest question. Some turn to religion out of fear of the unknown, others don't even bother to ask. For me, I feel like I don't belong to a "group" but rather exist. To stay an individual is the hardest aspect of my life. You are the sheep or the wolf in life, sounds like you are a wolf and that is where you belong. Stand alone, do the right thing, before you know it you will create a group of peers, but always think for yourself. Read some Deepak Chopra.

Answer 4

Aww....honey. I know how it feels to feel lost and like you have no idea who you really are. I've been through that too. I'm still trying to find out exactly who I am but I'm pretty happy with most of what I have found out about myself.

You need to take some time to find out what the real you is like. The way you'll find out is by going through certain experiences, hardships and other trials in life. When you surface from all these problems, you'll look back and see how you handled it or learn from the mistakes you made and you'll eventually emerge a stronger person.

I guess you don't really feel a part of your family is probably because you guys don't interact much with each other or you haven't developed a special bond of sorts. Try and work on that....you might actually forge a proper relationship with your folks then.

Good luck!!! And relax...everything happens for a reason. If you need someone to just hear you out, drop me a line.

Answer 5

You belong to yourself . You are in this world to explore and become what you may. Look inward to find yourself not all around you. When you have found yourself you can help others and that's what living is really all about. No one can tell you what or who you are you have to figure it out for yourself. People can suggest things that you are good at and encourage you along the path to finding yourself, but the ultimate decisions have to come from you alone or you will be living the life of someone else and not the life of your own.

Be patient , it will all come in time. When you are young it is easy to think that things should come relatively soon but the truth is you find yourself through what you experience in life.

So give yourself a hug and a pep talk and go out there and live...just don't live blindly. Think about what you experience and what you can learn from the experience and you will find yourself and your way without any trouble at all.

Answer 6

It can be difficult sometimes to find a sense of individuality.  We have many people who tie us to their group or interests and it can be difficult to find youself with so much grasping at you.  I've come to find that there is a balance to be achieved.  We are a part of our families and we should recognize that but not let it define us.  

All people want both to fit in and to stick out.  Every person has opposing desires to be a part of something bigger, to feel a part of the family, nation, sports team, group of friends, or whatever it is, yet to also desire independence and a way to stick out among the crowd.  To be unique among all people.  This is natural but difficult to understand.  I think striking a balance between fitting in and sticking out is a healthy way to find who you really are.  

It is entirely true that to define ourselves we must look not just at ourselves, but the people and the world around us as well.  We are not living in a vacuum so we can't be entirely individual and life wouldn't be too fun that way.  Hope this helped a little.

Answer 7

Its taken a long, long time, but I am mostly sure I belong here in western NC. I was born and raised in northeastern New Jersey and, to tell the truth, I never really felt like I belonged there. Yes, I had family, friends and education, but it all seemed like I just went thru the motions of living. I never set down roots either thru having a career or owning a home. Seems I was always one foot out the door, most days.

This sort of just fell into place for me. I've prayed, of course, for direction, but didn't know what I was praying for. Its a spiritual reason I am here. I just haven't found out WHY I am here. Not yet, unless I am just here because something bad was to happen up there in Jersey. God protects His people. Believe it.

Answer 8

quit searching...live life...you will run into it along the way.

Answer 9

dude, i feel the exact same way as you. life is a long journey and most people spend a good part of it trying to figure this sort of stuff out.

one thing that has helped me heaps is good music. find some music that is really you and don't worry about what anyone else thinks or tells you. just like it for how it makes you feel or the message its displaying.

hang in there buddy, one day it will all click together nicely, or you'll find that perfect person.

<3 Maggot!!