How did you deal with your parents' separation/divorce?

Question

My parents are "separating" for a year or so. My dad should be out of the house by the end of August. My older sister will come back and start living with us. I feel like the situation is more permanent than my parents let on. My mom says that both of them need to "change" and they can't do that with each other around. It sounds stupid. Any other people who went through this or who are going through it now I'd like to know what your experience was.

Answer 1

Its always hard for parents to split up thers no magic in dealing with it just keep loving them both who knows they may get back together

Answer 2

well i'm 14 and my parents are getting a divorce and well my mom had gone out to salt lake city utah and my mom had said it was only for a week trip and she had said that she needed time to THINK now my mom had left on the 1st of July and came back on the 22nd of july she never called me and if she did she would call at the time that she knows that everybody was out of the house and so when she came back she had not taken her pills at all from the 1st to the 27th only because the police told her. so then on the 27 my dad and i had just come back from camping with my friend and her dad and when we got in the house my dad noticed that somethings that they had not talked about were taken out of the room. So well here during that time my parents were planning on a divorce. so i had gone to the park with my brothers and sisters and so during that time they were fighting. when we got home my dad had gotten an intention for her leaving the house for the night so she packed her things and left 2 hours later the police come up with my mom in the car and my mom had said to the police that he had kicked her in the Leg and grabbed both of her arms and left  3 bruises now when it was my side to tell the story this is what i had said "I know my dad did not hert her because he would never and has never done it the whole time he's been with her and my mom get's bruised VERY easily and she has not been taking her pills" so then the police left. around 6pm at night 2 more police showed up and had said that they might be arresting my dad. my dad told them the whole story and he did not get arrested. so now my dad wants to take sole custody of me and my brothers and sisters.

I really hope your parents don't turn out like how my family is turning out. and well right now my mom is forcing me to come see her apartment but right now i don't think i'm ready.

i really really hope everything goes fine with your family

         -Good Luck

             Leila

Answer 3

aww i'm really sorry, dear. it does hurt a little, but you have to understand that by no means is it your fault, and its better off this way. its really good to talk to people about it. if you have any ques or you just wanna chat, you can always email me

Answer 4

divorce is painful especially when children are involved.  they're doing it and sparing the details to make it a little more bearable for the kids and themselves.

keep your chin up and try not to stress too much. if it gets really bad, try talking to someone.

Answer 5

When my parents divorced I was fairly young but I blamed me for a lot of there problems. At the same time I tried to hide there fighting from my younger brother. It was not until several years ago I got the whole mess straightened out in my mind with the help of counselors.

Answer 6

Your parents divorce will affect your whole family forever.

I was 12, in 6th grade. I remember it well.

I missed Daddy when he left us, but it was the right thing for him to do. He and Mama didn't get along anymore. It was awful in our house. When they decided to split, they called us into the house and started arguing over who should tell us. Daddy told Mama to tell us cuz she wanted the divorce. Know though she was right in divorcing him. I firmly believe that. After he left,  I missed him. I cried a lot. Always to myself, in my bedroom, alone and listening to sad songs. Songs like: You better sit down kids, I'm telling you why... your mother and I, kids, don't see eye to eye.... sang by Gary Puckett and the Union Gap in the 60's and Cher in the 70's. My parents divorced in that era. I survived. I am strong. Sadly, my sisters truly didn't make it. The middle one is badly screwed up and has been ever since. The youngest didn't have a chance, she was raised by the middle sister. Mama had to get a 2nd job to support us. Daddy left our state and didn't see us for two years. We were poor. Mama barely made enough money working two jobs for us to survive and welfare wouldn't help unless she quit working. I left her house at age 15 and went to live with daddy after he had come home. Mama cried but it was right for me. And now, I assure you, it was right. I am normal and happy and married more than 25 years to my first and only husband. Guess I learned something from my parents example.

Mama tried but she was just too nice. She couldn't make those girls mind even if she was home with them 24/7. She couldn't say no. In part, cuz she was afraid they would leave her just like I did. Mama loved us unconditionally. She always loved me even after I broke her heart. She was proud that I became a success in life. She is gone to heaven now. I miss her so much, she died almost 4 years ago. Daddy is still here and I love him too. It is just what it is.

You will be ok. Be sure of it. Don't live like my sisters did. Take care of yourself. Have morals and standards and be a good person.