How did you know you were ready to start trying for baby #1?

Question

I know there are so many factors, but my husband and I are thinking about TTC. A few people say wait, and a more say let what is meant to happen will happen, which wont really happen since I am on the pill. and others, with kids, say not to overanalize it and just go for it. we have been together for 10 years, married for almost 2, we have a house, and both have pretty good jobs... I have been wanting a baby for almost a year, but he is just coming around to it.

Answer 1

My husband and I got married when I was 19 (he was 23 and we had been together for 3 yrs) and I wanted babies immediately, but luckily he had more brains than me and refused to even talk about it until we had time to grow and see that we were stable and ready to be unselfish. We both had good jobs and we had a house, but looking back now realize that we were still in me, me, me mode. When I was 25 we talked and decide that we had enough of the "free" years and wouldn't miss all that freedom much at all. We were finally ready to devote our selves unselfishly to a little one. I am so thankful that he realized we weren't ready. It was hard enough at 26, so I can't imagine having a baby at 19 when I was just starting to really get any life experience. I guess after all this babbling my point is jobs and houses are only a part of it. Be sure your ready to spend the rest of your life worrying about someone who will look up to you from birth till your death. If you can be a good, strong, positive influence (not perfect, but your best), and you really feel your marriage is strong (pregnancy and babies are hard on a marriage sometimes) then go for it. It sounds like your off to a good start! Best of luck!

Answer 2

My opinion is that you if you and your husband both know you want kids then you should ditch the pill when you get to the next placebo pack.  BUT, you shoud probably spend 2-3 cycles using protection and letting your natural hormonal balance return.  That way both of you have a bit of time to let it sink in.

If your husband really isn't sure I would wait for this step though.  Everyone needs to be on board with such a big, life changing decision.

Good luck!!!

Answer 3

it is a major decision, however, seeing as you have been together with your husband for 10 years, married for 2, you have a house and good jobs, there is no reason why you wouldnt wanna start trying... and if you want it to "just happen", its not gonna happen being on birth control, granted there have been ppl who get pregnant while on bc, but your best chances are to get off of them, and you MAY not get pregnant right away, it may take awhile. my best friend waited 7 years after her and her husband were married to try for a kid, and she tried and tried for 4 years before getting pregnant with twins, miscarrying one of them at 5 months, and having a healthy girl... but now she found out she had to have her uterus taken out and cant have anymore. and now she wishes she would have started trying earlier!! i say, if youre ready, why listen to the critism around you. do whats right for you and your husband, if you are both ready, id say go for it!!!!

good luck and lots of baby dust!!!<3

Answer 4

My husband and I sat down and talked several different times in depth about how we felt about starting a family. We voiced any concerns we had about how a baby would change our life and discussed each others expectations for the way we would want to raise our child.

My husband wasn't real sure if he wanted kids yet, but after we talked a lot he decided that he was ready also. We conceived within a month of first trying. Unfortunatley, I had a miscarriage at 7 1/2 weeks.

I think for us going through the pain of the miscarriage and having to have a D&C surgery, it really made us realize how much we truly did want a family and that we were ready to start that part of our lives.

We didn't have any luck ttc again for 6 months after the miscarriage, but now I am 29 weeks with our first baby... a little girl. :-) We couldn't be any happier or thankful than we are now.  

Answer 5

I have been with my husband for 7 years (married for a little over one year) and I had been talking about babies since we were together after about 4 years! I stopped talking about it because it freaked him out. Then after we got married, he started talking about babies! So of course I got excited but I said we should wait a little longer, ect, ect. I knew I was ready because my heart would ache every time I saw a baby.  Finally, in March of this year I told him I couldn't wait any longer and I really wanted to start trying. I had been on the pill for 7 years, and it only took 3 months of trying before I got pregnant! Unfortunately I had a miscarriage so now I want one more than ever!! We are going to start trying again soon. Good luck to you, you sound like you're ready!

Answer 6

My husband and I have been together for 5 years and have only been married for 8 months. I stopped taking birthcontrol a couple months before we got married because we both said, if we got pregnant it was meant to be. Now I am 22 wks!

For your situation I would start trying, get off bc and if it happens it happens! You both have good jobs & a house, I wouldnt wait any longer if I were you.

Good Luck to you! =]