How did you ...? ?

Question

1) How and when did you come out

2) Any problems

I didn't come out yet , but i told my parents that my boyfriend was my body guard , and that my best friend ( a girl ) was my girlfriend . lol pathetic i know

Answer 1

I was 18 - 19, depending on who it was.

Came out to my Mom before my Dad, by about 6 months.

I was living with my Dad, and working with him also, so if it was going to go bad, it would go really bad.

Mom: she was cool. "I know.  We were waiting for you to tell us" We being her boyfriend and just about everyone who knew me.

Dad:  OK, but kinda odd.  "why don't you just choose to be bi?"  That was kinda strange.  I think he might have some tendancies, so it was an easy thought for him to get to.

How: I just said, 'I have something to tell you.  I'm g*y'  It was not an easy thing to say.

Don''t ever lie, and it will be easier to say over time.  Eventually, people will figure out that you spend a great deal of time with boys and are not dating any girls.  

my dad: "these girls you spend time with...You're not dating any of them? .... Oh.... give it time..."  Man, He was really clueless..........

Answer 2

Very, but humourous, lol. You should tell your parents that your bf is your buddy guard.

I came out when I was older and with the fears of rejection, but I had a bf and we decided it was best as we were going to live together as a couple.

I had my mom and sis who I trusted the most come for a weekend when I was alone. The first night I sat them down, held my mum's hand and told them that I had something to tell them. Please not interject or give an opinion until I was totally finished.

If they wanted to leave I understood and hoped they'd come back eventually.

If they wanted me to leave and come back when it was time for them to leave,no prob.

If they just wanted to mull it over for a day or two then say something, that was fine as well.

I looked mum in the eye, took a swallow and said, "Mum, sis. I will alway love you no matter what you think or say. If you disown me and never want to see me again I will always love you as much as I always have. I just want you to think about what I'm about to say, and respect what I have to say".

I took another short breather while the room was silent with baited breath, then I said, "I've been struggling with this for years and finally accpet what I am. I found someone to share my life with, we love each other very much and you know him very well. Mum, sis . . . I'm g*y and I pray you don't have a problem with that?".

Mum, still looking in my eyes and squeezing my hand in a loving way said, "Well I'm heterosexual, do you have a problem with that?"

Then she embrassd me, my sis came over and did the same. All sis said was, "We figured that out a long time ago. Ryan is the one right?"

It was and I believe they knew ever since I was a teen and just never brought it up, but were happy I did. Ryan and I were accepted right away. Mum told me before she passed away that all she wanted was all her children to be happy as she had been and that she was happy for Ryan and I and loved us both very much.

Best of luck to you. Hope you are loved and accepted as I was and am. Love to hear how it went. God bless.

Answer 3

While I was on the phone with my girlfriend, I said this to my parents, "Hey guys, I'm marrying Meagan." Figured I'd shock em with something worse first, then I said I was kidding and uh that I was attracted to people, not gender.

They said okay, and it was my business. No problems.

My girlfriend on the other hand..her dad is a cop, and was raised in the south, very prejudice against anything that's not white and straight. So, she hasn't told him yet, and probably won't til he's done paying for college :D

Answer 4

i have the same problem...good luck with that...i know im gona need it!!!

Answer 5

1) 1 year ago, I told a classmate/friend (female) "wanna hear a secret..?" and you can guess the rest lol

2) Not so far, a friend of mine just said I'm g*y while she was drunk, but not any problems yet o_o

Answer 6

I was 18 and I told them in a letter!

Not neccessarily to be recomended but it is what I did as I was so nervous and I couldn't bring myself to say it.

It was all a bit weird but yet a bit normal too like Dad maybe didn't take it too seriously and was happy to just think I was a bit confused and thought I hadn't experienced life enough yet.  Not really sure what mum thought.  

It all seemed to clear the air a bit.  They  (and probably I) didn't really want to discuss it much after that.  The longer I live a g*y lifestyle the more they get used to it.

(trying to be straight and having a baby didn't help with that, but at least they can't say don't knock it 'till you've tried it!!)

Answer 7

I haven't come out to my parents yet either.