How did you tell your parents?

Question

I'm only 19, so when i found out i was pregnant i was so shocked, I am now 11 weeks pregnant and looking forward to meeting my baby, but i don't know how to tell my mum and dad or my boyfriends mum and dad, the only people that know i'm pregnant are me and my boyfriend at the moment, but we want some ideas about how to tell our parents

I know they will be happy for us, we have been together for 5 years and have talked about getting married

So how did you tell your parents?

Answer 1

I agree with krazysty,  

that way you can say what you want without interruption and  also it may be a shock for them and it can sink in for them so they wont over react and say things they don't really mean.

I certainly wouldnt invite both sets over for a meal, imagine the anti climax over desert, each not knowing how to react, it could lead to alsorts of situations.

But Im sure they will be really pleased for you and proud grandparents too!

good luck for the future

Answer 2

i didn't

i wasn't

Answer 3

I was young when I got pregnant with my first child, only 17. I was terrified to tell my parents so I wrote them a note. That way I could get everything I wanted to say, out before they freaked on me lol. Everything went fine and they didn't react like I thought they would. I actually did the same with my second child, and I was 23 at that time but still nervous for some reason. And for both times, I had my boyfriend tell his parents.  

Answer 4

i was 19 when i fell pregnant with my daughter (I'm now almost 22) i was so nerves about telling my mum and dad but it has to be done, i just phoned my mum and said mum i have something to tell you can i come over later on today as i don't want to do it on the phone (i did that as i think most parents can prepare themselves in advance!!) when i arrived at my mums i just said mum I'm pregnant, i thought she would go mad but she just gave me a big hug and i showed her the scan pics etc .just go for it, i know how hard it is but once its done its such a big relief!! congratulations by the way!!

Answer 5

I havent been pregnant

Answer 6

i live with my boyfriend and i knew my mom wouldnt be happy so i sent her a letter and she told my dad. and my boyfriend just sat his dad down and told him he was going to be a grandpa...  

Answer 7

I was 21 when I got pregnant and my parents are strict catholics so it was not an easy time!

I called my mum and said could she come and see me because I had something to tell her and we went out for coffee and told her straight up.  I'm pregnant and I'm having it.  

I think it easier that I had a plan in my head as to how I was going to look after the baby etc.  My dad took it much much harder but eventually (after seeing priests and telling me to get married or give up the baby for adoption etc - all of which I obviously ignored) he came round.  My daughter's now 8 and they get on like  ahouse on fire.  In fact I'm pretty sure he likes her more than he likes me!

I think the key to it is to have a plan.  Talk to your boyfriend about how you are going to manage this baby.  Where you are going to live, whether both of you will work or be in school etc.

If you approach both your parents with a very fixed idea of how you are going to cope and pre empt their concerns they will have to accept it eventually and be happy for you.  Please understand however that they are certianly going to be worried about the impact this will have on the rest of your lives so be prepared to be the calm ones in any discussion.  Stick to your guns and it will be fine in time.

Best of luck to all three of you.

Answer 8

After trying for 5 years, my husband and I were finally blessed with a baby girl back in the year 2000.  The way I broke the news to my family was different.  I bought 3 gold keyrings, then had engraved on them, Nanna Pat (mum), Poppy Pete (dad) and Aunty Kylie (my younger sister).  I sat them down at the kitchen table and presented them with what they thought was a belated Christmas present.  Needless to say, there were lots of tears that day.  

Answer 9

invite both sets of parents out to dinner or luch and maybe you can drop little hints at the table say some of the things that are supposed to signs of early preg. like tell them you have been feeling sick lately and so forth until someone says what are you pregnant and then you can both smile and say yes

Answer 10

if you know that your family and your boyfriends family will be happy for you, what is stopping you from telling them? are you worried at how they will react? if you know they will be happy for you then tell them i am sure they will be over the moon at your news especially having a grandchild on the way...

i told my mum and she wasnt best pleased as i ws 16.. i then went on to have more children i had another at 18 and then another at 19.. each for me was the same horrible response, my mother didnt approve but now they are all here she loves them to bits.. i am 23 and on number 4 and again she wasnt very happy, not sure why as all my children are with the same person and we have been together for 8 years and we have our own house!!

i would say tell them.. and i really hope that both family's give you the responce that you are saying that you will get.. i wish you all the best . good luck

Answer 11

I've never been pregnant, but friends of mine got 2 greetings cards saying 'To Granny and Grandad'.. quite nice I think!

Answer 12

Well i'm not pregnant/never have been pregnant,  but i would tell them now if i was you. I think they would react worse, the later you tell them (if thats  what your worried about)

i would sit down all the parents, and just tell them straight out. If you think they will be happy for us, then there's nothing to worry about - and you've been together for quite a while now so its not like youve hardly known each other!

Anyway hope this is helpful? x

Answer 13

I am really close to my mum and just came straight out with it, i was more scared to tell mt dad as i wasn't sure how he would react. ( i was 19 too)

You and your boyfriend could cook a meal for both sets of parents and announce it then. If you are in a serious relationship i cant see them being anything but pleased for you both.

Good luck :)

Answer 14

Well since Im a male I cant reproduce.

Answer 15

Well my mum, being a bit psychic, already knew the morning after the pregnancy test, and she just said eat more broccoli. I was 19 (2 weeks of 20) at the time. I was scared to tell my dad, thinking I would be in trouble or something, I called him a few weeks later and just said I am having a baby and he said 'congratulations'. So yeah, it didn't go remotely as bad as I thought it was going to. My partners parents are catholic though and he was very scared to tell them, since we shouldn't even have been having s*x, so he put it off for 3 weeks, and when he told his mum she just asked him if he was really in love with me and wanted to spend the rest of his life with me and when he said yes, she was ok with it.

I am 23 now and pregnant with our second child, it was way different for this one, because I had been telling them since last year that I planned to have another baby this year, so they were expecting it, and I just told them in emails lol.

Answer 16

Over coffee, when she asked me if I wanted one and I said no...for the first time ever! I went off coffee very early in the pregnancy...of course, then she asked why not? And out it came! She was not amused...I was 31 and my relationship was fairly new (it didn't last...) but, daughter is now 24, Mum died when she was 8, and it's been hard...but well worth it! You are lucky you are in a steady relationship, and still young! Enjoy telling them all, I'm sure they'll be very happy! x*x