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How did you tell your parents that you wanted to start dating?

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i'm 15 yrs old. about to be 16 in nov. rising sophomore in high school. i recently have a boyfriend that i'm completely happy with. i've known him ever since we were in elementary school. so we have history. the problem is my parents aren't into the allowing me to date part. so i kept it very secretive. i can't talk to them about anything. i really want them to meet my boyfriend and tell them that i have one. how can i tell them that there "lil girl" is maturing and wants to talk to them about stuff teenagers my age go through? and also tell them that i want to start dating and tell them about my boyfriend?

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  1. ok here's whatcha do.

    1. write down the things you want to talk to them about

    2. read over the things you have writen and find a way to make your point in a way that they can understand it.

    3. read it over and over again to you can remember the points you want to make

    4. sit down with them in a calm environment

    5. talk to them about your maturity and then mention the bf

    6. now just incase the subject of s*x comes up educate yourself before you talk with your parents

    now the things that you probably want to point out are

    1. your age

    2. that you are willing to disscuss the rules for dating, such as, curfew and any other rules they might have

    3. that you have known your bf for quite a few years

    4. show themm that you can be trusted

    5. tell them that you want them to meet your bf

    6. let them know that you are getting older and a little more responsable

    and one more thing. please please please don't move to fast. stay young while you can.


  2. Dont know now and never will!!

  3. I told my mom i was like "I'm going out with ____" and she was like "YOUR TELLING ME THIS NOW?" and then got over it.

    and then my next boyfriend came along (after the first one and i broke up)

    and i said to her "does eric know ____" and he was like yeah i do and i said oh well his son his my boyfriend.

    and they didn't care.  

  4. my grand mom and my dad just kinda found out

  5. Heya

    Just tell your mum straight out that you have a boyfriend , if she starts moaning tell her look im going to see him still even if yu dont want me too but i would much rather date him with your blessing.

    =] xxxx

  6. Well, I really don't know about this because my parents know that I have dated and will have more boyfriends. They just sit me down and talk to me about guys....(I'm sure what your parents have told you).

    But what I would do is just sit down with whichever one of your parents you think is the "coolest" and will understand you more. But don't start out telling them you have a boyfriend.

    Like for instance if your mom is the "coolest" easiest one to talk to then when she isn't busy ask your mom can you two sit down and talk. I personally would start out with asking her when am I old enough to date and if she says some weird unreasonable answer, ask why and if she don't give an good enough one. Ask how old she was when she started dating and then casually bring your boyfriend in it, but say he is a really good friend and he asked me out or whatever.

    I hoped I helped you out.

  7. who cares if they don't want you to? its your life and you shouldn't have to hide it. you don't need to tell them anything if you don't want to. and if they aren't letting you date because they think you'll have s*x then obviously they don't trust you.

  8. You need to be honest with them. If they find out that you are going behind their backs and hiding things from them then they are not going to think you are trustworthy enough  to start dating.

    Be honest.

  9. Same here. I have a boyfriend, though, but I just refer to him as my BGF around my parents so I can hang with him at places. I think they're figuring it out, though . . .  

  10. oh my god im in the same situation. except my parents think like all teenage boys are like evil or something. i have no idea  how to tell them that you have a boyfriend. or about teenager stuff but once you find out i wanna know too!

  11. I was really freaked out.

    Just tell them, they really will undersatnd

    You can't stay a child forever, right?

    I had to tell my dad, and he actually started crying, i was growing up.

    Ha ha.

    He just made it clear that he wanted to meet my boyfriend, where i was at all times...etc

  12. Do you have a history with your parents of being responsible and trustworthy?  If you can show examples of when they were right to trust you, that would help your case.  

    Tell them that because you respect them, and want them to be proud of you, there's somebody you want them to meet. Make the point that they were right to trust you before, and they would be right to trust you again now.  Be prepared to make compromises with them, to earn their trust.

    Give them some background on his family, including contact information. Keep your cell phone on, and be home on time. Tell them that you totally understand that relationships are about respect, whether it be with a boyfriend or your parents, and you hope they do too.

  13. its gonna take a while maybe to finally tell them straight out "i have a boyfriend"

    for right now just start talking to them about being a teen and accepting more respnisibility andbeing able to handle yourself.

    do stuff thatll show then you can take care of yourself so they wont have to worry so much about you being with a boy.

    after maybe a month or two of proving yourself, slowly work up to saying that you have a bf.

    goodluck

  14. I was 12 and half when i started and i didn't tell them. this is how they found  out. it was christmas and i wanted to get him something. I said "I need to go to walmart." to my mom. She asked "why? you got to get your boyfriend something?" i answered "yes." and that's how they found out. Now i just tell them i got a boyfriend and they are ok with it. but they do have their rules to it.

    you can just simply say "me and [boyfriends name] are dating."

  15. you are definitely old enough to start dating i started dating my now fiancee when i was only 14, i also did it in secret and after 3months my parents found out, they knew i loved him and knew that i wouldn't stop seeing him, so they gave him a chance and let him come round for dinner and they liked him and 6years on we are planning the wedding :D just try to talk to one of your parents (the one you think will side with you the most) and try to explain you situation and say that you want them in your life and want to talk to them about these things (and that they should be amazed and grateful your willing to share these things because most teens don't and that's why a lot get into trouble because they cant trust their parents for guidance) just ask if he can come over for 1 dinner so they can meet him and see how nice he is.

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