How do I NOT be myself?

Question

Whenever I am myself I s***w up my relationship with people cause I'm weird. So how do I not be myself? Should I wear a hat? I think a hat would change a lot...

Answer 1

Look, Mad Hatter, the last thing you want to do is be someone other than you. The trick here is to confront your issues head-on, not hide behind them (or stuff them under your hat). But this takes a lot of inner courage. You have to really look at anything and everything that made you sabotage each of your previous relationships. Ask yourself what negative patterns you may have developed over time in order to avoid committing to your partners. Commitment is definitely something you're resisting on some level. Once you determine a recurring pattern, be willing to examine why it is you've developed such a pattern as a protection mechanism; what exactly are you protecting yourself from? And work to overcome any insecurities and fears. Don't pretend to be someone you're not. By saying, "well my relationships don't work anyways so might as well have a relationship built on a total lie," you're admitting that you're approach won't work. And what you want is to stop expiration dating, not perpetuate it. So, if you really want change, be courageous enough to look at yourself in  the mirror WITHOUT JUDGMENT, and address any underlying issues you have with relationships by going to the root or origin and reaching closure. (The reason I emphasize that this must be done nonjudgmentally is you won't gain anything by beating yourself up, except for a low self-esteem. Accept that part of you that is fearing commitment and forgive yourself totally, while being clear to yourself that you no longer need to hide from long term relationships.) I know all this might seem like a tall order, but you're asking for help in this situation, so you are now willing to improve your personal life. And really the willing is half the journey to change. Good luck!

Answer 2

don't change !!! if you had a bf he would like you for who you are not for someone your pretending to be cuz what if you get married to that person and you pretend to be someone your not your gunna have to be a completely different person your entire life.

Answer 3

Please stay weird. There's too many d**n normal people on this earth! I've been weird for 17 years now, no relationship in sight, but what the h**l, why not?

Answer 4

Just be urself if ur sum one else it might not be a good idea...

Answer 5

hahahaha. a hat? isn't going to change you enough to not be weird. It might make you more unusual. But anyways, I hate it too when people are like just be yourself, because it never works for me either. What you need to learn is how other people act around other people. You need to learn how to read other people correctly, like when they need a friend you give them a hug. Maybe even being a little bit shyer will help you not act so weird, like shouting out things weird.

hope this helps... a little..? :)

Answer 6

also what you wear... try and change that but mostly your personality

Answer 7

yeah a hat would change your personality a lot.

GOOD IDEA.