How do I a 'tomboy' become more girly?

Question

I'm 15 and have been a tomboy all of my life.. Simply because my mother was never there for me and had to relie on my father and because i always hung round with my brother and his friends. well now at the age of 15 i want to change. I hate having these little rumors about me being a lesbein.. sure theres nothing wrong with being one.. but the thing is.. i an't one! i love boys! and i hate getting rumors like that going round.. because i can only wonder what those boys are thinking about me now..

well, I have long brown hair. it has lots of layers in it. All layered. I straighten it alll offf theee time! lol

I sometimes do put my hair up

i use makeup now and again.. i don't want to rely on it thats all.

my dress sence has changed dramically. from sports clothing to skinny jeans and fitted tops.

I don't always wer jeans. but i have to say i wear them most of the time.. but still.. most of the girly girls i know always wear jeans?

i have 1/3 of my friends being male now..

i say dude and man alot. =/ ermm.. idk what else to put

so really my question is how can i do more.. not to change myself but to be more girly? if that makes sence :)

thanks alot x

Answer 1

u sound like one of my friends at school

lol

Answer 2

try incorporating a dress or skirt into your wardrobe.

look for an older cousin or aunt, or anyone really whose

style you admire and ask them for ideas where to shop and

how to bring out your feminine side.

Patrick

Answer 3

I am so sorry that you have to put up with those rumors!

From one tomboy to another, just be yourself.

It is not worth it to change for people who seem to not like you for yourself anyway.

The boys that are your friends are the only boys that you should worry about, because they already think you are awesome.

If you still really want to look more girly, I have found that simple clothing items, like plain jean skirts and shirts with small ruffles, make me feel very pretty with out being overly done up. Also, you can look to some of your favorite rocker chicks for inspiration, like I look to Hayley Williams.

She tends to dress very cute but not all sexed up and frilly.

Just remember to be yourself, and only make changes that make you happy, do not change for someone else.

Hope this has helped : )

Answer 4

I'm  sorry rumors like that are spreading!  

Anyways, if you don't have bangs, consider getting them.  Also try highlighting your hair or getting your hair dyed a different color.  And keep straightening your hair.  Never go to school with wet or greasy hair unless you put it up.

  And if you want to be really girly, almost always wear at least a little bit of makeup such as eyeliner, mascara, or lip gloss.  Try also wearing earrings and painting your nails.

  It's fine to wear jeans, just make sure they're not baggy, and skinny jeans are great if you've got tiny legs/a small build.  Make sure to wear also nice tops (not just t-shirts).

  

  And try not to say man and dude a lot haha.  I mean I say "Aww man" sometimes.  You can always say girl ;) like "Hey what's up girl!"

Hope that helps!

Answer 5

wear make-up and girly clothes and leave ur hair open and flirt lolz

hope it helps

xx

Answer 6

either were more makeup or were more name brand like aeropostale and abercrombie or were more pink

Answer 7

i don't know about the boys you know but me and my friends like "tomboy" girls. so i say don't change just show your girly side every now and then. smile alot, lean on a guys shoulder sometimes, and say ow in a cute way when you get hit even if it doesn't hurt (don't over due this one because it gets annoying after a while, its cute sometimes)

Answer 8

I think you may need to change the way you act as well. A lot of girls who are tomboys act like "one of the guys". Try to be more ladylike if you aren't already. You can change your style all you want, but if you still act like one of the guys, you're still going to seem tomboyish.

And I don't think you need to change your style sense, just maybe the way clothes fit you. If you were wearing baggy, boy-like clothing before, just go for things that fit you better and make you look like a girl. You don't need to sacrifice who you are when it comes to your style, you just need to change certain aspects.

Answer 9

Whats wrong with being who you are? I can understand where your coming from though. I used to be a huge tomboy until I started getting interested in boys, so I changed myself. I went from being myself to being this fake girly girl. I learned later I was happier being myself. You can still be inbetween. Find cloths that fit your style. This does not mean wearing pink, and cute little skirts. You can still be a tomboy and dress like a girl. Tomboy no longer means huge baggy cloths. I like to dress nice now and then, when Im going out with friends or on a date, but other then that I am who I am.

Answer 10

well , from how u talk , i can find u being a laid-back person

i dont find anything wrong coz i gotta lotta male friends too online

reality , i dont talk much

but uh , do u wear girly clothes now ?

i dont really , i still wear half size bigger than my true self coz i dont like showing my body

but a lotta girls wear those checkered tight clothes , anything which makes u flashy

throw away the guy hats and bring in these kinda golf-hats ?

nah , its called beret hat

http://www.flickr.com/photos/lilyoftheva...

u can look at the other styles in there too

hmm yeah , dont change ur true self but lets see

also a hint , if u wanna dress VERY girly but still act like that , then either the girly clothes has gotta go or ur personality

so dress like a normal teen but not tooo boyish

Answer 11

make out with girls lol lol loll\

Answer 12

I would say always make an effort to wear jewelry, and it doesn't need to be anything crazy, just some cute diamond (or cubics) studs and whatever else you like.  Try letting your nails grow long too.  That always makes people look girly w/o trying very hard.  Definitely keep up with the make up, even if its just a little concealer, eyeliner and mascara.  Purses are another huge accessory.

Hope that helps =)

Answer 13

i was a tomboy but i grew out of it when i turned 13

but occasionally wear boys clothing

um try getting skinny jeans,polo shirts,graphic tees,skirts[u can wear with ballet flats]

you'll grow out of it,because it seems to me every girl i know was a tomboy but there so girly now

Answer 14

i think you are ok. you're still young, and it's nice you can be friends with boys and have fun. nothing wrong with that.

skinny jeans are girly.

you don't need to wear lots of make-up.

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Answer 15

i was like you, a huge tomboy   because i always got on more with boys than girls. now im 14 and its changed.  but the change came naturally? i started getting interested in make up and clothes and fashion e.t.c...

im still like you, i use boyish sayings like "dude" and "man"  and i never ever rely on make up or me looking perfect like most girls in school.

just ignore the rumours.

you are who you are

be proud your not a barbie clone =]

i am!

x

Answer 16

You already sound pretty 'girly' to me.  I think you've got the look down.  At least you sound like it.  Just don't worry too much.  Unless you want to empty out your head and walk around all buffledbrained, you've sound like you've done all you can.

Sorry.  It's just that the most 'girly' girls I know are also the most empty headed.  They look good, but that's all they got.

Answer 17

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Answer 18

I understand exactly what's it's like to be where you are.

My advice... curl your hair! It always looks more girly.

I always wear jeans, boys don't dislike that.

It sounds like your already on your way to becoming more girly. Well done! lol..

I also don't rely on makeup.. I only usually wear mascara, but if you want to look more girly, just wear a little eyeshadow and mascara, perhaps a little blusher on your cheekbones.

Clothes... wear a bit more pink.

Skirts? Dresses... you can't really wear dresses for a normal day, but you can wear skirts.

The fitted tops and skinny jeans sound very nice!

Just once a week or so, wear a (just above your knees) skirt, 3/4 leggings maybe, or tights, dolly shoes and a top.

Paint your nails.

I dunno, you don't really need that much help. But if people think you're a L*****n then just pass comments like 'ooh he's fit' or something. Not about some guy in school (too many rumours will be spread), but just like a guy in a movie or something... and if you hear anyone in particular say you're a L*****n, ask them why they think that (politely) and if they can't answer very well just say "well I'm not, dunno why you thought I was, that's stupid"

Good luck girl!!!!!! =] xx

--edit--

I should have said.. don't change who you are just to get attention from boys. You sound like a nice person.. so you shouldn't worry! plus.. a lot of girly girls don't wear skirts, so don't feel pressured into wearing them. =]

Answer 19

hang around with some girls more often, learn from them, but remember to just be yourself, thats the most important bit!

Answer 20

I use to be a tomboy to when i was younger..now im 21 and I'm very girly!

Sometimes i wish i was still a bit of a tomboy because i use to be more athletic and fun around boys...when you get very girly you either get more uptight or more fake/or easy...

But yea just be your self! It's who you are inside. As for your outer appearance should reflect who you are inside. The changes you explained sound pretty girly enough for your age.

Your wearing the girly clothes and makeup and you have long hair. So really you sound girly enough ..