How do I accept a bad gift from my brother ?

Question

My brother brought me some shoes as a b-day present the other day and they were not what I expected so when he got from work I told him thank you but I told him how I felt also ... I told what shoes I'd rather have other than the shoes he bought me ... I tried to make like I wasn't being ungrateful and I wasn't either .... later we're having this discussion about the shoes and during that he's start sayin that I'm ungrateful and stuff like that ... but also he got my twin sister some shoes that are way better than mine so it seems to me that he got my sister what she wanted or something she would have liked .... it would be different if they were a color I liked ... but I'm just not interested in them ...... and my brother is sayin did I care about his feelings when I said what I said and things like but it's like he didnt even care if I would like them he just go me some shoes so I wouldn't feel lefted out so now he doesn't want me to talk and another thing is me and my bro like similar styles in shoes and he sayin that he wore wear them but if that's the case why doesnt he have any shoes like that ?

Answer 1

Donate them.   don't say anything   Ask for a t-shirt

Answer 2

just tell him flat out, i don't like them.  not liking something has nothing to do with being ungrateful.  in fact, turn it around on him.  tell him if he really knew you as a person, he would know what you like.  isn't that the point of a gift anyways?  to buy something someone would want?  give them to a homeless person.

Answer 3

It sounds like you're being kinda ungrateful.  He probably put a lot of effort into finding shoes he liked, and thought you would too,  and making sure they were the right size, and then got really hurt that you obviously didn't like them.  Maybe next year you could give him a list of suggested gifts or suggest a shop he could buy a gift certificate for.  It could be worse - my sister-in-law and her husband for christmas this year gave me (drumroll please) a polyresin snow globe.  It still had the price on it.