How do I address an invitation to a person just starting a divorce?

Question

Help me! I'm addressing my wedding invitations and I'm stuck on one of them. I found out last week that my cousin has just served divorce papers to her husband and I have no idea how to address her invitation. I think that they are both staying in their house for now. Do I address it to her only or do I address it to both of them? Any ideas?

Answer 1

I'd call her and ask, though usually, since it's just the beginning of the divorce, you'd probably address it Ms. with her married name.  

Answer 2

Hey, that should be the least of your worries. I would just address it to Mr. & Mrs. whatever. They will get the hint that they are both invited and if they are living in the same house still, they must have some unfinished business:)

Answer 3

Simply address it to her.

Ms. Sally Rose

1414 Violet Lane

Sunnydale,Jupiter

123456

Answer 4

You show support for your cousin.  You address the invitation:

Ms. Jane Doe and guest

If Ms. Doe wants to bring soon-to-be ex, then that is okay.  If she prefers to bring someone else instead, that is fine too.

Leave it up to Ms. Doe.

Personally, I feel it would be best if she didn't bring the hubby.  That could be uncomfortable.  And of course . . . after divorce is finalized, the ex-hubby will no longer be attending your family events.  Everyone needs to get used to it now.  Address your envelope:

Ms. Jane Doe and guest

Answer 5

That depends on their relationship (if you want to invite both of them). If it was an ugly divorce, and you're not close with him just your cousin, then I'd just invite her.  And if that's the case, you can just address it to her (i.e. "Michelle") with her address and all that.  The invite will still get there!

Also, you can send it to her and write "+ guest" and if she feels it appropriate to invite her now ex husband, then she will.  At least that gives her that option.

Good luck no matter what happens! :)

Answer 6

If your close to her call her and talk about it or talk to her face to face.

Answer 7

If you were told about it, then address it to each one separately.

If you were NOT told, address it to mr and mrs.

Answer 8

If you don't have to mail it to her i would just drop it off to her with her first name on it. if it has to be mailed i would ask her how she would prefer to be addressed..... by her married name or her maiden name. no harm in asking :)