How do I approach this with my boyfriend?

Question

I've noticed lately that my boyfriend has gained a lot of weight. He's a big guy in general, very tall and broad. It just seems like he's been eating a lot and more often. When he's sleeping, he sometimes struggles to breathe. I'm just worried about him. Should I just keep my mouth shut, or do you think I should talk to him about this? I've been losing weight, so I've tried to make us do it as a couple, but he sticks to his ways.

just worried...

Answer 1

tell him in a jokey kind of way like " some1s a bit porky"

or if not then tell him coz u care for him u noticed that he has trouble breathing at night and that u searched it on the internet and that is related to over-eating, and that its not healthy.

Answer 2

Obese people people can develop sleep apnea.  Ask him to get a physical.  Also calculate a BMI on yourself and him.  See what he says when he sees the numbers.

www.bmi-calculator.com  

Answer 3

     Bring up the fact that when he's asleep he struggles to breathe.  Tell him how worried you are and see what his response is.  It's a very difficult situation, I know, but one which you'd be wise to broach.  It's so easy to hurt people's feelings, isn't it?  Still, I think it's a risk you have to take.

Good luck

Mike B