How do I arrange a private adoption?

Question

My current pregnancy is at 19 weeks. Im unhappy Im 18, this is my third child.

I think its wrong for abortion so Im now stuck.

I dont wanna sell him or anything just want a nice couple to adopt and maybe pay for me to go private for the delivery and my hospital bills afterwards.

Im based in the uk. The babys dad does not want to know and I have a legal signed document to that effect with 3 witnesses.

Answer 1

I'm sorry hun I have no advice for you other than use contraception if you don't want any more kids - simple as that.

Answer 2

Sweetheart, i think you might really regret this, you have other children and must really love them and i think that when the baby is born you will want to keep it...think about waking each day knowing that your child is out their somewhere growing up without its mummy.

Answer 3

Private adoptions are illegal in the UK.

Just imagine how you would feel if a couple who you considered to be 'nice' and gave your baby to turned out to be a couple of convicted paedophiles.

If you truly want your child to be adopted, then you would have to sign over your parental rights to social services and they will find your child a good family who would have been through rigirous assesments to see they are truly suitable as adopters.

Answer 4

go see citzens advice

Answer 5

Although I cannot answer your question, my husband and I would love to adopt but through the usual system, cannot because of our faith - Jehovah`s Witnesses.  If you find your answer on private adoption, we are very interested in helping you.  

We live in France.

Answer 6

How can you do that?!

I am 16, I have a 2yo daughter and I'm pregnant in 8th month with twin-girls and I am waiting for them with such a joy! I don't have my parents' support, I live on my own and I work from the internet. Even though we are so happy at home! You should be crazy to give up your own child. You'd give up ne and not the other. That is awful!

Answer 7

This is a real sad situation to be in! Would you still feel the same way if the farther wanted to be involved??

I dont want to sound judgmental but your 19 right? Well im sorry but dont think your old enough to know that if you dont use contraception i.e. condoms then its highly likely that you will get pregnant!!

You may want to talk to your family as they will help you come to a decision, if there is no one around then your midwife will put you in touch with a councilor who may be able to talk you through your options.

Whatever happens in the future best of luck to you and PLEASE remember to use protection in future it isnt just your life your messing up!!

Answer 8

Go see an adoption lawyer and I'm sure they could help you.

Answer 9

if it's the baby's future you're really concerned with:

GO TO A CHURCH and talk to the minister about your situation. Tell him/her you intend to find a nice home for your unborn baby and ask if there are any families in the church who are maybe unable to have children or just have enough love and room for one more.

This way you can always *check in on it* when you start to wonder if it's doing ok. :-)

Answer 10

contact an attorney (I recommend www.adoptionattorneys.org) and get some advice.  The attorney costs you nothing.  They maintain a running total of hours spent on your adoption, and that is charged to the adoptive parents.

Answer 11

A person just asked about adopting a child through a private adoption. I don't know if this is what you are looking for, but this is the link to her question--

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;...

I hope everything works out for you and your little family, and the new baby.

God bless you.

Answer 12

just because you have a document signed and witnesses does not make it legal. your best bet is to find a lawyer, or when the baby is born tell them you dont want it and they will place it in a home

Answer 13

Not legal in the UK. speak to your health visitor she can arrange for the baby to be adopted but you dont get any money for it, they take it from you just after birth and you never know who has it.

Answer 14

I think you still need to have it legalized. At many adoption agencies they allow you to choose and interview a list of families. You may want to go that route. Otherwise, unless a family member is adopting your child, I don`t believe you can do a private adoption.

Answer 15

Private adoption is illegal in the United Kingdom - it's unethical, coercive by it's very nature and prone to corruption because of the money involved.

If you really want to let your baby go, you need to contact your local authority.  The midwife should be able to put you in touch with the relevant department

As for going private - those private hospitals really aren't any better than the NHS.  Some of them don't even have doctors on duty 24 hours - I know of several cases of patients suffering after birth, some fatally, because no doctor was on duty at the private hospital when the patient required urgent care.  At least with the NHS they are always there on duty round the clock

If you want to contact me please do and I'll offer any support I can.  Adoption is so permanent - would you consider legal guardianship and be involved in the child's life

Either way, I'd be happy to help in any way - and I don't charge for babysitting and if you are set on adoption, I'm a good listener if you ever need to talk

LC is giving you false information - private adoption and the work he does (as a profit making adoption lawyer) is ILLEGAL in the UK and rightly so.  Of course LC is referring to the USA system, which is a free-for-all in free enterprise; even when it comes to wheeling and dealing in human lives (I know, I was one of the American hot 'commodities')  

Oh, and it is also illegal for lawyers in the UK to solicit for business in this way - no Judge would ever finalize an adoption in the UK that had been procured in such an unethical manner - thank heavens

Answer 16

Putting your child up for adoption will most likely haunt you for the rest of your life, what If you change your mind? Have you considerd fostering? you may find that you really love your new baby and it may be ok.