How do I ask him? Should I even ask him?

Question

I contacted an old boyfriend (from 13 years ago), and now we write to eachother on Myspace. We were friends first, and I had a boyfriend from another school. Then he and I "fell in love" and started dating. I never officially broke up w/ the first boyfriend. (I was young - 14 & immature...what can I say?)

Anyway, I confided in a mutual friend, told him I never broke up w/ the first guy, but that I had no contact w/ him for months, so we were pretty much broken up. Well, it got back to my boyfriend, and he broke up w/ me by ignoring me. We were so dumb back then, but I think I really broke his heart.

We did, however, have a great friendship/relationship before our stupid friend caused all the drama. Anyway, I found him, and now we're talking again...casually.

Since we never really had closure about it, should I even bring it up?

I hate that he thought I was cheating on him, but it was more than a decade ago & we're adults now.

Guys...would you even care about that?

Thanks, in advance.

Answer 1

This is history and who cares.. I am surprised you are thinking about it so much.

Answer 2

if its in the past n u 2 are adults, then why not let it go?

Answer 3

Oh dear,,,,,,Yawn! Yawn!

Answer 4

I think you should just tell him you are sorry, and simply ask him where you two stand.

It will all come together.

Answer 5

ask him if he still likes you then tell him nicely that it was over long time ago

Answer 6

Give it a go. We blokes are a bit thick sometimes and need a bit of a lead from the lady. My wife is 6 years older than me and she got tired of waiting for me to take the bait and just kissed me. Worked for us, 20years married 2 boys in Uni!

P.S. She was my playa mates girl when i met her.

Answer 7

personally I would leave the past in the past and let sleeping dogs lie.

Answer 8

You have your clue there, the guy accepted you as a friend after that past experience..

start talking about that past relationship and ask him how he feels.

That would start a conversation until you reach of starting a new beginning to your romantic side.

Answer 9

Well it would bother me.

I would bring it up and apologize for it, just for my peace of mind. I don't like things with no closure.

But that's me. If you feel like you need the closure, bring it up. It can't hurt -it was 13 years ago!!

Answer 10

Closure is good for the soul. If things are not settled it will rise up again somehow and at a time you may be most surprised. So if you wish to clean up and get a fresh start do it consciously and carefully. That means prepare yourself well in speech and choose the right time. You also may want to carefully consider his side of convenience. Closure if done with tack and care will definitely benefit both. If you are apprehensive about it don't worry just let him know the truth without being defensive or blaming. Whatever it is a word of apology always soothes things out even when you may not be fully to blame.