How do I ask my mom?

Question

I want to ask my mom why she devorced my dad but I don't have enough courage.

What do I do? How do I start it off? I can't just randomly prance up to my mom and say 'hey mom! why do you hate dad?'.

Can someone help?

Answer 1

I've been searching the internet for a site that will give you a nice clean cut answer, but there isn't much out there that isn't from a parent's perspective.  And since we don't know how old you are, I'm not sure what material would be appropriate for you.

Basically, just go to your mother and ask her.  

"Mom, I know that I'm "just a kid" and people think kids aren't affected by adult problems, but your divorce from Dad has left me feeling left out, confused, and unloved.  I don't need to know everything, but why is Dad not here anymore?  What did he do to cause you to remove him from my life?  I need a father figure.  Its important that a young person has a male figure to look up to."

Answer 2

Hi Sarah,

Don´t be afraid to ask this to your mother.  The trick is the way in which you ask and the time you do so.  

Try to find a time when you are alone with your mom and that she is relaxed - like just chatting with you.  Ask her straight (but not in a demanding tone).  Just say:  "Mom, why is that you and my dad have divorced?"

Don´t ask anything about hate - let her speak to you and listen carefully.  You can also ask the same thing to your dad.  It is important that you know.

Tell her you want to learn from that experience and be honest, understanding and kind.

Agua

Answer 3

I would ask her directly but I wouldn't say why do you hate Dad  - just why did you break up and eventually get a divorce. Let her finish before you say anything...out of respect for her sharing her feelings.

Answer 4

i dont really know just be like " i have been wondering why...." you know

Answer 5

You could begin "Mom, I love you and I love my dad and it is really hard to hear you talk bad about him like you do. Please consider me when you speak about dad, because I love you both.": Something that should work, but you have to let her know how you feel.  

Answer 6

Just say "mom i have a question for you and please tell me your answer with honesty, Why did you divorce dad?"  - hope my answer helped :)

Answer 7

She still hates your dad?  And she intimidates you about asking about the divorce?

I can see your dad's point of view.

Ask her during dinner.

"Mom.  I was just wondering...  Why exactly did you and my dad get divorced?"

Answer 8

well I don't think it's right that your mom hasn't talked to you about why she divorced him in the first place, because a divorce affects the children too. I mean you do have a right to know and you shouldn't be afraid to ask her. Start up the conversation about how you feel and that you hope she's okay with everything and gradually slip in your question.

good luck!

Answer 9

You could always try saying something about your dad- even if she doesn't say anything, demand that you have the right to know, because you ARE their child. Push her into telling you, and she eventually will.

Answer 10

Tell her it has been on your mind lately... maybe try and ask her while you guys are already in a conversation rather than just going up to her and asking..  

Answer 11

Sit Her Down And Ask Her Why She Divorced Your Dad

You Have A Right To Know And She Won't Be Mad At You =)