How do I ask out an Indian girl without offending her family?

Question

I am Canadian (so like white, European heritage) living with my grandparents right now who moved to India for their retirement. They introduced me to our next door neighbours, their close friends, who have a daughter I really want to ask out, but I don't know what the "customs" or traditions are here. I'm in Gujarat state, the capital city, (I can't spell it) if that helps? Oh and we're both 15 years old.

Answer 1

be friendly with her and her parents. get to know them. etc. then ask her out. (pretty much like you would do in canada) also if you wanna be extra carefull try looking up on a search engine Gujarat state marriage/dating customs or something like that

Answer 2

your screwed

Answer 3

Well first get to know her and her parents a little don't just barge in and ask to go out with their daughter.

    I learned that Indian parents care about grades a lot at least most of them do.

     Then when you feel like both of you are comfortable ask their permission.

      I don't know if they will have any traditions try to find out by ask their daughter.

     If you don't have that much time just wing it.

Answer 4

The best thing you can do here, if you want to please her family, is ask her mother and father for permission to take their daughter out.

Go around, and ask to talk to her parents. Be polite and explain to them that you would like to ask their daughter to go and see a film at the cinema with you, or you would like to take her to lunch one weekend. Say you are asking their permission because you saw it as the right thing to do.

This may work well, since asking permission of the parents of the girl you would like to take out is appreciated in all cultures.

I know it may seem scary - but the worst they can do is say no. If you ask their permission, they will probably see you as respectable and trust you a little more with their daughter, and say yes.

Their daughter may appreciate your effort too, and know you are serious about her because you asked her parents first.

Answer 5

I would think if the parents are deeply religious and you aren't of the particular faith then it is going to be very difficult not to offend them.  I don't know perhaps if there are secular Indians out there they probably would be okay with you dating their daughter.

Answer 6

Be careful! If her parents are very traditional you could get her in a lot of trouble. Since you were introduced to the family by your grandparents, you could ask the parents for permission to take their daughter out, but back off if they say no. Many Indians are very conservative and protective of their daughters and won't even let them near boys until they enter into an arranged marriage. Maybe you have a chance though if you go through your family connections and show you are trustworthy. Good luck!

Answer 7

You spelled it correctly.

Get to know the girl well.  Become a friend.  Talk with her like you would any other person.  When you become well acquainted, your grandmother might ask her over for dinner.

Most Indian families are very traditional.  They may not permit her to date at all at her age.  They may not want her to date anyone outside her nationality or religion.  You'll will know only by talking to her.

Ask her, as a new resident, what the customs are for many things and work in dating as one of the questions.  There are many Canadian and American families who would not let their 15 year old daughter go out on a one-to-one date with any boy.  That's pretty young.  See if you can make a group of friends and see her in that context.  And, ask your grandparents for advice.

You are very lucky to be able to live in a country with different customs and foods and interests.  Make the most of it.  We are jealous.  Our grandparents retired to Florida.   LOL

Answer 8

you're only 15, wait until you are back in Canada where going on a date isn't such a big deal, sounds a bit complicated in Gujarat.

Answer 9

Well I am living in Canada too, and am of European origin.. why don't you read up about Indian culture. then you can't go wrong.. if you learn something about what's going on in their culture it probably will tell you a lot and you will find a polite way.. you probably have to ask permission from the neighbours.. her father.. if you can take the daughter out.. and then ask her if she would like to go out with you... read about Indian customs.. you don't want to offend her by asking her father if you may take her out.. if she doesn't want to go.. so find out what is the appropriate way in this culture.. I am sure you could ask her first in private if she would go out with you.. and if she says yes.. you could ask her directly that you don't want to offend her family and ask her advice if you need to talk to her dad before you can take her out.. x*x

Answer 10

You're pretty much f*cked if she's Brama class.  Of not, you might have a chance.

Answer 11

Try and be friendly to her and her family, this would allow you to study who they are and see if she would turn out to be the type you can ask out. Hope this helps.

Answer 12

Is this a riddle?