How do I avoid looking into the eyes of a person and concentrate/listen on what they say?

Question

I seem to end of looking into the eyes of a person when they start telling me something and end up distracting him/her. This happens very often with women as I am very sensitive & self-conscious of the opposite s*x. Usually some men do not bother much and this helps me, but women think otherwise. Is there a way I can avoid looking into the eyes of a person and concentrate only on the subject they are speaking? I end up not listening to what they say and this is really a blot on my personality. I also tend to look at open chest/bust of women if it is exposed and this also creates nmore problems. I had always been a shy person as a child.

Answer 1

stare at a wall, people meditate by staring at walls because they wont be distracted.

Answer 2

Looking at the bridge of a person's nose is a sure way to freak them out. Unless it is your intent, avoid it.

It is OK to look at the floor. Most people will understand why you do it.

Answer 3

Try doing something else while you feel this is happening to you.

Answer 4

Look at their nose.

It sounds silly, but it looks like you're looking them in the eye.

Answer 5

You can try alternating between looking at their eyes, and looking at the ground. I'm sure the won't be offended if even you just looked at the ground and responded to make them understand that you're listening.

Answer 6

when they are talking, you can pretend you are busy doing something else. if you have jewelery, pretend like its broken and your fixing it, so your kinda just twiddling it in your fingers while shes talking.

idk. thats all i can think of hah =P  

Answer 7

Tasha please quit doing this, its nothing but self deception ! U cant pass all ur life by hiding ur weaknesses.

   Its all about self esteem. When u feel that they like u, it means u talk things they like, u behave that way etc, u look better. Make urself comfortable by being friendly and then when u see that they are not trying to find faults in u, U'll behave carelessly and freely. And thats the secret of a great conservationist .

Answer 8

Look at the bridge of their nose, sort of in between the eyes.

Answer 9

Whether you are shy or not, you are simply not interested in what the person has to say. If you were, you would not have this problem.

What you are doing is disrespectful of others, and will work against you when pursuing your goals in life.   I have found that constant eye contact is a sign of intelligence, focus, confidence and attention to details.  I know when someone is looking at my nose.  

Giving something your full attention is the only way to show your respect of them.    Making eye contact is a connection with the person, of which you are afraid to make.  People are really cool if you just give them the chance.