How do I avoid my brother for my b-day?

Question

I KNOW he will ruin it. It's the day after tomorrow, & I will be 25. He will be GUARANTEED to ruin it. He yells for no reason, he's very abusive & controlling. I want this to be a peaceful b-day. It's not that easy for me to just simply ignore his calls or ignore the door when he knocks.

Answer 1

Go out with friends so you won't be there if he drops by. Turn off your cell phone. If he calls the next day and complains, just tell him you were celebrating with friends and turned your phone off. Then thank him for thinking of you on your birthday.

Answer 2

This is when assertiveness training starts.  No one says you have to answer your door plain and simple.  Sooner or later he will tire of knocking and trust me, he will leave.  He may be tired and frustrated, but he will leave.  When he phones you, don't take his calls.  The day after your birthday tell him you were out celebrating with friends and that you were sorry you missed him but that you appreciate the fact that he made an attempt to both visit and call.  Don't let it upset you and don't let it worry you.  I've told you, learn to love yourself, don't let others rule you.  You are #1 and have to remember this, especially on your day of birth!!!!  This is your day to shine and shine you will!!!  Do you, be you, love you. Out with the negativity, in with the positivity!!!

Happy Birthday to you all weekend so you can start practicing!!!

Peace & Love  :)

Answer 3

Turn your phone off and go do something with friends.  It's your own fault if you let him treat you like that.