How do I be unlike my father

Question

I hate him so much but it seems everything I do is just like him. Ive tried so long to change my habits that reflect his but it seems that I always seem to do them regardless. Does anyone have any tips of how I can learn to stop practicing his bad habits. Just a few are hes selfish (he only talks to you when he needs something, and then he wont stop bothering you until you help him), hes careless unless it has to do with aobve, he shifts blame away from himself, hes cheap, immature, has a short attention span, etc. Please dont tell me no bull like I should learn to love him and please help answer the question.

Answer 1

Get a good education and a good job

Answer 2

I'm sorry you dislike your father. Sometimes we all feel the same.

You should be more positive asking more like "How do I be the best I can be" rather than "How do I be unlike my father". That's pretty harsh.

Every single day of your life, you should try to be open-minded and happy. It's just the fact of life. Be positive and happy. You might want to check out the Secret. It's great and life changing. But, everything really depends on your mood. Happiness changes everyone and everything. I may sound like a guru or something, but it really works.

Okay, so you don't like your dad. Let's be positive. You have a pretty good life, a nice house, and great, caring friends. You want to be your best self so, - smile, be kind, and be happy towards other and happy to help and you will get the same response from others! It works! It all depends on positivity.

Hope I helped!

Good luck!

Smile! :]

Answer 3

Just don't be like him.  You already know his deficits and how much they do not appeal to you.  Make it your business on a regular basis to change one derogatory aspect of his personality at a time.  He does not define who you are.  And get yourself into some counseling.

Answer 4

Go to counceling and det help, it is out there, if you are honestly willing to be helped!

Answer 5

My dad said to pick something out of all the things I didn't like about how they raised me and to focus on the one thing when I go to raise my own kids. That probably works pretty well for reforming yourself. I set resolutions every so often to change myself and work for a year at it until it becomes second nature. "Don't worry so much." "Get organized." I think it helps a lot. Obviously some things can only go so far, obviously if you are unemployed, you should worry. If you don't have anything, there is nothing to organize. But you can pick something like putting your friends first (that'll bite you in the ***) or be responsible or test your limits @ attention. Read a book, pick up a hobby learn something new. Tip well. Pick one and start there.

Answer 6

im the same way..im a girl but my entire attitude i have taken back after my father. and i feel the same about my father as well so i will not tell you u have to learn to love him becuase i know i cant but there is no way i have found to change my personality to where it is not like his,

Answer 7

do the opposite than what he does