How do I become tougher or more "thick-skinned"?

Question

I need to learn how to become a little bit tougher. I let things get to me too easily. How do I become a tougher chick?

Answer 1

We learn from our own day to day experience how to adapt and adjust our lives in the ways that help us grow and mature.

When I was a young girl, my life was difficult and more complicated than I could comprehend.  I was timid, frightened and nearly died from my body shutting down in terror.  A kind doctor told me that I was not  responsible and accountable for the behavior or others but I am responsible and accountable for my own life and future happiness, he gave me permission to care about myself and it was an awesome awakening that altered my life forever.  I have since made all my dreams come true and have become a very strong woman.  There have been many challenges along the way that strengthened me little by little to overcome and I always had the hope, faith and courage to keep moving forward. Take one day at a time, enjoying the opportunity of each new day, tomorrows concerns can be dealt with tomorrow and when something is too great and severe for you to deal with, give it to God to help you resolve.  

Your strength and courage will come as you need it.  Enjoy the innocence of your youth, your compassion and concerns are qualities that develop your character. Always stay at peace with your own soul,  do what's right, trust and respect yourself and be your own best friend, strive to be loving, happy and remember you are responsible and accountable for you.

May God Bless You

Answer 2

Join the Army, and you'll come away with a nice callus.

Answer 3

Don't take things so personally. Sometimes people are just venting. Tell yourself, "Too bad they're having such a rough day" and go on with life.

Also, a lot of this comes as we mature, so chances are you will get better at it with age.

Answer 4

i have the same problem, when i was younger i was so wild and crazy, but now i'm 13 and i'm more and more shy. my advice would be to just not care what people think about you. I keep telling myself " i dont care, i dont care" and it usually helps. good luck, and i hope you become a tough chick! ;D

Answer 5

when someone makes a rude comment  to you, just don't think about it. Its your internal dialogue (what you tell yourself) that really affects your self worth, not the comments. You just need to make sure those initial thoughts about yourself when you have someone be mean to you are gone in a few minutes.

Also, don't be really nice to those mean people. Seriously, you have to get mad at them, not like super pissed, but be like, sorry i'm not gonna deal with this right now, and then walk away. If you don't stand up for yourself, you'll probably end up taking your frustrations out on other people, or yourself.