How do I break bad news to my fiance?

Question

When My finace asked me to marry him her gave me his great grandmother's ring and when I was at dance practice I took it off and placed it in my bag. I had to do it because my dance partner complains that it hurts his hand when he has to touch me. But when I went back to the locker room after practice it was gone! I was so devasted and I reported it but I know the chances of me getting it back are very very thin. That happened two days ago and since then I've been avoiding my fiance and when I see him I make sure he doesn't see my left hand. I don't know how to tell him I lost his family heirloom. His mom already doesn't like me as it is and this will just be some thing new she can use against me. Would should I do?

Answer 1

this will be a great experience for your relationship. ! accidents happen and it wasnt that you did it and forgot about it and remembered weeks later you made an honest little mistake and this will let you see how we will react and how he makes you feel about it. remeber this for the next 60 years things r gonna just happen so its better now that you know he is understanding and sorry that you lost it and have him tell you that. he should be a little upset but not to the point he makes you feel guilty or like c**p k best of wishes

Answer 2

Be Honest!

He's gonna find out sooner or later, unless you plan on hiding your left hand in your pocket the rest of your life.

I found myself in a similar situation, (it wasn't an engagement ring) and my hubby wasn't happy AT ALL, but he got over it.

What's done is done and you can't change it, but maybe it will pop up.

Answer 3

Alluring Allie, there is no way you can continue to avoid your fiance and/or hide your hand from his vision.  I would suggest that you explain the story to him exactly as you have written it here.  He will most certainly be a little upset, and his mother will probably freak, but at least you have been honest.   It is not the end of the world.  Best of luck.

Answer 4

You have to tell him. Leaving it unresolved is only going to create mistrust and anger between the two of you when he does find out. Sit him down and let him know how horrible you're feeling, and he will understand. Know that he will probably be angry and hurt at first, and listen to him..without getting angry back.

Answer 5

That's horrible..

You really do need to tell him - it would have been best if you told him right away instead of avoiding him. He'll probably be upset but let him know you truly are sorry and that you love him.

I hope you find the ring and good luck

Answer 6

Would it have been any better if someone had put a gun to your head and took it?  Tell him straight out what happened as soon as possible.  He probably already knows that something is wrong by you avoiding him.  The sooner he knows, the better off it all will be and who knows --  maybe he can help track it down.  Surely you have a few suspects in mind who could have taken it.  He can help you get it back.  If you can't get it back, at least file a claim with the dance class's insurance company and maybe they can give you enough money to buy another one.