How do I break up with my PSYCHO GF?..She is a mess! HELP?

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I have been dating my girlfriend for about 4 months now and for various reasons it isn't going to work out. her parents are crazy and threaten her and degrade her all the time and make me feel uncomfortable. Also she is very immature for me I am 19 and she is 17 but the gap feels better then that she gets caught up in what everyone else thinks and her image and trying to have as many friends as possible.

Before we started dating she had a lot of problems with drinking and partying and overdosing on medications and what not, and i got her off all of that. She also had only had s*x one time before me and it was with an jerk who convinced her he would marry her if she had s*x with him and the next day he told all her friends and his friends how big of a s**t she was because she slept with him. then never spoke with her again.

I dread talking to her because our phone conversations are always so depressing she has anorexia and currently just got out of the hospital because her weight

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was down to 93 pounds. She thinks none of her friends care and a lot of them don't. Her parents often just make fun of her. Her mom is also clincally bi polar and an alcoholic.

whenever I try to break up with her she goes hysterical. she cries and screams and makes me feel terrible. I am the kind of person who cannot stand to hurt another persons feelings or cause pain to other people who dont deserve it. I cant leave her crying either im too nice. Im afraid she will hurt herself if i leave. she made me a little book with poems as to why we shouldnt break up. she also offers to do anything for me to stay with her, I mean ANYTHING. it makes it hard to say no because thats every guys dream. It pains me to leave her because not many girls would care for me and love me as much as she does and do the things she does for me. But I know it wont work out in the end and the longer I hold on the harder it will be. how can I leave her without her hurting herself or reverting to her old self

Answer 1

She's not psycho, she's a girl with significant problems! Bring her to a counselor and don't break up with her, help her.

Answer 2

tell her to lose the attitude and take more seriousness in this relationship

and say it wont work out if she carries on to be like she is

say you'll give her onne more chance to change or else you'll both have to move on and go your seperate ways no person can deal with this..

Offer her help with a counciler or something abbout her crazyness..

Answer 3

tell her shes beautiful, but breaking up with her might make her feel ugly.....what a predicament...

Answer 4

dang yall got some problems anyways i think you to should go to a therapist or she should go to a therapist she crazy.

Answer 5

Well first of all kudos to you for being a nice guy and trying to help her out. But the fact is she needs PROFESSIONAL help. She cannot be in a relationship and truthfully say she loves you cuz she still has ALOT of issues to get through before she even knows she loves you . Right now you are her saviour.  The one person who is not negative and mean to her.  Her self esteem is pretty low for her to offer to degrade herself so you can stay and thats a problem. She needs to deal with her family life issues, her anorexia, and her self esteem with a professional therapist or a consellour. She has a long road ahead of her. I think you should break up with her but still be her friend. Let her know that in order for you guys to have a good relationship she needs to deal with her problems.  Set your standards up and let her know them and tell her you are not willing to comprimise them. You do not have to suffer so much. She might need to leave her home in order to get better but she NEEDS HELP ASAP! Dont call her physco just cuz shes desperate to hold on to you. She is 17 and going through a rough time and your the only nice thing in her life. Be gentle but firm.

Answer 6

Either you love her, and will be there for her no matter what, or you need to move on. Trust me, I know what its like to have a psycho significant other. My now ex-boyfriend always used to threaten to kill himself when ever I tried to break up with him, and one day I pretty much said "s***w it, its not my fault if he does." Needless to say, he never went through with it and now its 3 year later, I'm with a new boyfriend and I'm happier than ever.

Answer 7

Well I think that you should take her to a hospital take her in admit her & then break up woth her.

I mean  thats the beest i can do homie.