Im currently in a long distance relationship. Last year, my boyfriend of 3 years (we met in college when I was an overseas student) came to my country to visit me and meet with my parents. Before my boyfriend came here, my dad, who had never even met him in person, called him long distance and told him if he set foot in this country he will do everything he can and ask his connections here to take care of him.
Earlier I had a fight with my boyfriend over the phone cos Im always upset why he was here only for a few days instead of the original plan of 3 weeks. Instead he spent his time with his family in a far city in my country (his brother married someone from my country too) for 3 weeks and visited my city only few days. When he was here he did tell me that he was just scared cos my dad did not want him here. I already knew my dad was a bit crazy and he says that to to everyone, but not to the extent that hed have someone killed.
Since last year my boyfriend and I have been fighting over this same thing on and off. Just awhile back, my boyfriend finally told me what my dad REALLY said. And he never planned to tell me cos my dad specifically told him NOT to tell me abt the call. Im dumbfounded, but I am not that surprised that my dad could say it. Why? I already know my dad is a racist. And he is a neurotic, over-controlling tyrant of a father.
The thing is I AM planning to leave this country, whether dad like it or not. I am working undercover though cos my dad would kill me if he knew abt it now. I need to act normally and professionally around him. Tonight I have an event that I have to attend with my whole family, with dad there of course. But I am just too shaken and upset, I want to know what I can do to calm down right now...Im a few hours away from seeing my dad. I cant stand to even look at him...pls help me..thank you....
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