How do I celebrate my son's 1st B'day while managing to make his soon to be 3yr old sis feel special too?

Question

My daughter's B'day is exactly 20 days after my son's B'day. Here 1st B'days are a big deal while the others are special yet not so grand. I am wondering if all the extra attention and presents my son would get on his special day will make my daughter feel jealous. She already understands B'days and has plans set for her special day. She even decided on the guest list and presents list, the color of her cake, the decorations etc., Any ideas or suggestions?

Answer 1

keep her excited about having her bday.  let her have a friend over her brothers birthday give her one of her gifts early and show her photos of her first bday.  Good luck

Answer 2

You did the right thing by really involving her with her party planning =) Nice job!

I would remind her that when SHE turned 1 you had a really big party and tell her who came and what you did. Bring out some pictures from it and videos. Then she can see that hers was a big deal too and she will feel happy for him.  

Answer 3

As you have stated....she already understands.....so what's the problem.   Give her some credit, sounds like a smart young lady.   It is her brothers big day.   Include her in greeting the guests, etc, but the rest is just going too far IMO.

Answer 4

Your daughter could very well feel jealous, and I wouldn't be surprised if that's the case as, first, kids can get jealous easily, and, second, females tend to be more emotional than males, so maybe she could have a small "party" of her own on the side in your house. Not so much a party, but more a gathering of some sort with some of her friends.

But, if she does truly understand about birthdays, I don't think you would be asking this question. Let her invite some of her friends so she'll have them to occupy at least some of her time.

Answer 5

Let her feel like shes helping out, let her help with HIS party. And then buy something relatively cheap but nice and call it her "unbrirthday" present, which is basically a way of not leaving out the siblings. Let me know if that helps