How do I change my life time of bad attitudes?

Question

How do I change my life time of bad attitudes?

Answer 1

I supose it depends on the habbit.

If its smoking its going to be harder than swearing.

Just think about it before you do it..i dont know if this will help in anyway but...

Answer 2

Pray and try to think positive.

Answer 3

it's easy you just do.

you replace them with new good attitudes, like if you smoke, every time you feel like doing it go for a run instead or eat a healthy snack

try doing the opposite until you brake the habit

Answer 4

I presume that you mean that you've always had a bad attitude about things and want to have a better outlook on life, now?

The typical advice is to think about how good things are.  Ask yourself this question: has anything ever happened in your life that was so bad that it couldn't be overcome?  Even when tragedy happens, eventually, the pain goes down.  At least enough that you've been able to continue your life.

Another piece of typical advice is to consider that worrying is useless.  If things go well, then you've wasted the part of your life that you spend worrying or being negative.  If things DO go bad, well... they would have gone badly anyway.  Why compound it by wasting time being negative.

However, here's the thing: this typical advice doesn't mean a single thing if you can't internalize it.  Most of us know these things in our heads, but we can't make it work in our hearts.  We resort to being negative.  Why?  Because we've had it rough in the past.  Because we want to protect ourselves from "bad" being predicting it (after all, a pessimist will never have a negative surprise... things can only be the same as or better than expected).  Or because we have some chemical issue (e.g., clinical depression).

So, the way to change is to decide that you want to.  Then, try to remind yourself of the two things I said above.  Put it on a little sign on your desk, on your mirror, or somewhere else that you'll see if when you feel at your most negative.

If that doesn't work (give it a few months), consider seeing a professional.  The best ones will be the ones that don't try to fix your "head" but who help you figure out where the attitude is coming from.  Once the cause (or causes) are better known, you can work together on the right plan.

Not to be negative (he he), but it's hard.  This is one of the hardest "habits" to break.