How do I choose between two girls I like?

Question

Ok, so I'm 19. I've never had any serious relationships, however, this is about to change. I'm getting close to this girl I met at my old job. She's a year younger than me and about my height, if that really matters. We've talked a lot outside of work and text usually every couple of days. Also, she's been interested in going to my church (I'm Catholic). Her family doesn't go and she wants to get back into the habit, so we've been to church a couple of times. However, I'm off at college and she lives a good 30 miles away. But I really think I'm beginning to like her.

Now I met this other girl at my new job. She's absolutely gorgeous, seems really nice, and most importantly, broke up with her boyfriend about 2 mo's ago. She's the same age as girl #1, oh and she's from Spain, so thats cool....

I want to see where it would go, but I don't want to 'leave' the first girl, have it turn out bad and end up losing both girls. Any advice? Ask if you need more info.

Thanks! Jeremy

Answer 1

If you do it smartly, you can go out with both of them until you decide which one is the best for you.

Sometimes, dating more then one woman may work for your advantage. Creating a little bit of jealousy and a little bit of sense of aloofness drive women crazy for you.

good luck!

Answer 2

well no matter what. one of them is going to be a rebound.

just follow your heart and whatever happens happens.

Answer 3

when you say you need to choose do you mean that you want to go steady with one of them? If so be smart and be friends to both casually until you know them better and then make up your mind

Answer 4

If the first one really "floats your boat" then stick with her and ignore the other one.  that will be good training for you so that when you do make a commitment to a woman, you won't have a history of cheating to make you want to repeat your old behavior.

If you never cheat, it is harder to do the first time.

If you cheat now you will probably cheat again and sooner or later you will get caught and you could lose the one you really love over a quickie.

Answer 5

DATE BOTH OF THEM

Answer 6

It seems as if though you have more to say about girl number one than girl number two. Also, keep in mind that girl number two just came out of a relationship not so long ago and might not be ready to jump into another one.

Answer 7

the 1st one seems to be more faithful....Dnt leave the one u love for the one u like, cuz the one u like could leave u for the one they love  

Answer 8

First off at 19 years old, it is so okay to play the dating scene with two women just as long as your honest with both parties, and keep it casual for a while. You can definitely take more time to get to know each girl a little better. I would be a little cautious of girl #2 though considering she is fresh out of a relationship. You don't want to be the rebound guy.

Answer 9

Do a pros & cons list. Compare their qualities, What are their features, what you do/don't like about them, how they treat you, their personalities, what you like/hate about them, etc. One for each girl. The girl with most pros is the winner. It's that easy.

Answer 10

jeremy, man, what a problem. too many girls is worse than not enough! i think you need to see what your gut says, i'm leaning towards girl one, and i think you are too. 30 miles is nothing. it'll all work out man, if you do lose them both, girl three is around the corner.

Answer 11

Uhh, get a friend to ask them if they woould like to get serious with you. If one says no, and the other yes,, date the yes girl. if they both say yes go with the one you have fun with and have more in common with, if they both say no, then find someone new..

Answer 12

You seem lukewarm about both of them.  You'll know when you really like someone.