How do I choose which co- workers to invite? Should I send a general invite to one division office?

Question

Or is that tacky? I know the people I am definately inviting, but starting to feel guilty about not extending the invitation further. I am wondering if I could send an invite to an office as a whole, but then still send the people I had already planned on inviting their own individual invitations to their homes.

Answer 1

One very important piece you left out of your question:  how many people are there in your office?

Answer 2

send invites to those you want to attend.... then send a wedding announcement to post leaving off the location.  If well wishers want to send you a gift or good wishes they will regardless. That way no one gets put on the spot

Answer 3

I think that is tacky, plus who knows who will show up because sending a general invite like that you will not get the response cards.  Instead you should only invite coworkers on your team, or who you work directly with.  If you are friends with specific people in other departments or teams, invite them but ask them to keep it quiet.

I kept it simple by only inviting my team.  There were 2 others from other departments but I had been friends with them prior to working at that office so there were good at keeping it quiet.

Don't feel guilty people understand you can't invite the whole office!

Answer 4

I am dealing with that right now.  I only wanted to invite three of the 10 people that I work with, and then I said if I can't invite them all then I am not inviting any.  This way you won't be hurting people's feelings and also it cuts back on the guest count.

Answer 5

The general rule on inviting co-workers to your wedding is to ask yourself this: "Is he/she a person I would invite to my home for a small dinner party?" If the answer is no, then don't invite them to your wedding. People who don't know you outside of seeing you in the office aren't really going to be expecting an invitation to such a personal event.

That said, whoever you choose to invite should receive a regular mailed invitation just like your other guests. In addition to it being the right thing to do, they will all respond (hopefully!) so you'll know how many people to expect. "Bulletin board" invites aren't very successful in getting people to RSVP yes/no by the date you need.

Hope this helps! :-)

Answer 6

no you cannot send a general invite. if you are going to invite anyone you need to personally send them an invitation specifically to that person.

Answer 7

I am getting married May '09....and I am sending an invitation just to like the whole department.....and then their are like 2 co-workers that I am close friends with outside of work that will be getting an individual one at home.

Answer 8

Invite the one's you want by invitations and the others by putting a invitation on a office build board for those whom would like to come .You cannot afford to satisfy everyone or afford to feed everyone from your company. Have extra food just in case. Some people get the message that way better than telling them you don't want them their. Some people just won't go because the way they were invited ,get it(hint,hint).