How do I control my anger/upset and frustrations and learn to relax more?

Question

I need some advice on how to control my anger. I'm perfectly capable of trying to get other people to see my point of view by talking calmly and rationally but in a discussion I find myself getting more and more upset if the other person just blatantly won't listen to my point of view. It also doesn't help that when I'm having these discussions the more upset I get, the more inarticulate I get (so that I can barely even form sentences). This leads to frustration and anger and sometimes resorting to the old "oh, just f**k off then!" Embarrassingly, I'm also one of those people who has a tendency to cry when I'm angry (to 'release' I suppose)...

Does anyone know of any simple relaxation techniques or ways to remain calm when things are bothering me? I suppose coming from a family who has always talked things through I find it hard to just 'put up and deal' with things - how can I become much more laid back and go with the flow? Also, keeping my temper and frustrations in check?

Thanks in advance :)

Answer 1

BREATH!

Answer 2

Yeah....  just like in my situation, this person insists that i should listen to him first but he still doesn't know the whole story.  Then, i try to speak then he yells at me to listen to him first.  I cried so hard that i feel my eyes so heavy because i try to hold it but tears keep on flowing....  T_T  I just remain silent then write and write and write....

I think that if i would let my anger control me, things would worsen.

I just write and write and write or read and read and read to make me forget that very happening that irked me. I shall be humble so things would not worsen and lead to undesirable things (when you're in the proper condition, as the undesirable would be desiravle when we're angry already)...

try to cry alone in your room (if that helps you) then write, write, write the things that makes you angry.  you may want to burn it after....

Just divert your attention to something else and forget what happened that provoked you to be angry.

Answer 3

Hey,

I suffer with the same problem, and it's got to the point where i just avoid any confrontational situations because i can't handle the frustration i feel when i become involved in an argument. There is nothing more infuriating to me than someone who gets their point over but refuses to listen to anyone elses. So the easiest option for me is to just let the other person think they're right from the outset.

Answer 4

See, what i do is just walk out the room. Throw things about for a while, and just lie down and listen to music...

The trick is to not let anyone know just how angry you get, let it out when your alone.