How do I convince my baby father to have another child???

Question

We have been together for just over 2 years. We have a 16 month old boy who we both adore and love so much. Now he has 4 other children from previous relationships and is very much involved in their lives as well. Now together we own 2 business and are working on opening another one within the next month or so. Now I have been really wanted to try for another baby however he says he really does not want any more kids. He told me when I was pregnant with our first son that he would like to have one more however now that he is here his whole views have change and he says he really doesn't want any other kids. Now my question is how do I convince him that another baby would be nice. We have everything from our first child still and I think the 2 years age gap would be prefect. I have expressed to him how much this means to me and he just doesn't seem to really understand how serious I am. Now I love him, he is my soul mate, so I am not going to leave him just beccause of this plus I wouldn't want to have any other children by someone else. So what do I do...... Please give me some advice!!!!

Answer 1

Wait a little longer and suggest it then, It sounds like you both have a lot on your hands at the moment and another baby might not be the right thing for your family. You said you are trying to open another bussiness, How about waiting until you are up and running with that bussiness and try then? Your partner isnt ready for another, and trying to convince him will not work, Even if he said yes to it, Would it be a true yes, or just to make you happy? He needs to want this child just as much as you, not having to be convinced. It isnt the best circumstances to bring a child into. Just wait a while longer and see what happens then.

EDIT: I agree with the answer above mine, 5 children already is alot, Making it 6 will be a h**l of a strain on him. Wait until he is ready!

Answer 2

I don't think you should force him to have a child he doesn't want.  I understand you think he is your soul mate, but think about how the child would feel if the dad didn't pay attention to him because he really never wanted it.  Find someone who has the same wants as you.

Answer 3

It seems like you are looking for someone to tell you that you are right and he is wrong. I know that you have your reasons for wanting another baby, but it seems that he has his reasons for not wanting another baby. Have you really talked to him about it and taken the time to find out his point of view, or are you consumed with convincing him to say that he wants another baby? You can't force him into having another child. It's not fair to him, and it won't be fair to your baby. He could end up resenting you and the child, and that would be bad for everyone, even your son.  

Answer 4

There really is not much we can tell you. If he doesn't want another baby then there is no reason to try to push him into wanting one. You said you've expressed how much you want one so that really sounds like all you can do.

Answer 5

Don't have another child with him unless and until he wants one.  You have to realize he already has other children and if he is helping support them, he may not feel like he can care for one (financially) as much as he would like.