How do I convince my dad to let me have a boyfriend when I turn 13?

Question

My mom's okay with me having a boyfriend when I'm 13--about a week. (No kissing; just holding hands, hugging, & kisses on the cheek.) But, she says that I can only have one when I'm 13 if my dad agrees.

My dad says no. How can I convince him to let me have a boyfriend?

[Please don't say "You're too young." I know what I'm not supposed to be doing. I'm responsible enough to have a boyfriend.]

Thanks.

Answer 1

Love is supposed to bring people together, not tear your family apart!!

Your dad is more important than your boyfriend -- he is raising and supporting you! So stay loyal to him most of all. :) Life is short; if this causes a fight, then make sure you don't regret it 70 years from now. (Coming from someone who almost lost her mom several times).  

Answer 2

Don't!You don't need a boyfriend right now.

Answer 3

I been through this before. My dad is really really strict. But if your dad is like mine,have your boyfriend to ask permission to date. It's the responsible thing to do. :)

Answer 4

Show him you are ready for this next step in your life. And I dont think you are too young. Alot of people your age are already into s*x, which is some scary stuff. I think you need to be mature about it and if you wish to have adult priviledges you must act like an adult and take responsability for adult things. Even when its totally off topic, take responsability for your actions. Your dad will take it into consideration and he will remember how mature you acted and he will have more faith in you as a mature young adult.  

Answer 5

You can't, my dad says I can't have one, but I have one anyways. You just have to sneak around his back, your dad most likely won't change.

Answer 6

I have to agree with your father on this one, but you know what there is no point in bring the matter up until someone ask you. SO just leave it be and than if someone ask you tell your dad, show him the goods and the bads of this person and than come to some agreement.

Answer 7

Well i think if you find someone you really like bring him back to meet your dad, and see what he thinks!

My mam & Dad never said when i could or couldnt have a boyfriend. I just brought one back 1 day who i really liked and thankfully they liked him too x x  good luck x  

Answer 8

Well I don't have a dad but I have two older brothers and an uncle that are my father figures. I'm 13 too. I just showed them I was responsibleenough for a boyfriend. I got great grades, I did all my chores as soon as I got them, I helped my little brother and did extra kind things. Then I sat down with them and asked and they said yes but that they'd like to meet him first just to make sure he was ok.    

Answer 9

Tell him about everyone who sneaks around without telling their parents, and how you though it would be more mature and responsible to ask permission.

Answer 10

Easy you don't tell your parents.

Answer 11

I don't care how resonsible you are, you aren't mature enough. But, I know most 13 year olds have their "relationships," including me, so I can understand where you're coming from.

Can you at least try to understand where he's coming from? If you don't have a boyfriend there's like little to no chance you'll do anything bad with a boy. I know you aren't against bad behavior and right now it's easy to say you'll behave. But when it's actually happening, it's alot harder than you think to just say no. If he does allow you to date, he's allowing the chances of you getting into trouble to skyrocket. Plus, you'll be much more comfortable with guys a lot sooner if he lets you date so young. Which honestly isn't a good thing.

Have a good talk with your dad about this. But be understanding if he says you can't. Dating at 13 really isn't that amazing, I promise.

Answer 12

hmm i dunno maybe prove ur maturity and trustworthiness to him

Answer 13

Bring home a girlfriend?  

Answer 14

There are alot of girl out there who are PREGNANT at 13. So i can see why your dad wants to keep you out of trouble but he needs to let you grow up, even though this may be hard for him.

Just don't say "dad can i have a boyfriend" and just pick the first lad you find. Wait until you meet someone you really like and explain to your dad that you really like this guy and you would like him to meet him. It shows maturity and it shows you are respecting his wishes. You are too young to have a full blown relationship with all the s*x and stuff and im sure you know that =) but i see why your dad is worried.

try a little empathy? (= just try and show him you are mature enough to have a boyfriend. Don't stomp your feet because he goes against you lol.

You sound like a mature young woman - so go and show that to your father.

All the best xxxx

Answer 15

ugh, when you know, tell me please, im like, 13 and im not allowed to have a boyfriend until im 18 or so!!

LOVE SUCKS, RIGHT??

Answer 16

Respect your father's wishes. Believe it or not, he knows you better than you do, he knows boys better than you do, and he has your best interests at heart.

Answer 17

Sorry, but if you say that as soon as you turn 13 you want a boyfriend, you are missing the whole point. Unless you mean that you want permission to date. You will know when you fall in love and your parents are much more likely to let you see this guy if they realize this, rather than thinking that you just want to have a boyfriend for the sake of having one.

Answer 18

I hate it when girls do this(I'm a girl, btw) You talk like a boyfriend is a toy, or something to furthur your public status, instead of a human being.

You sound like you're trying to convince your dad you want a dog.

(I'm sure you didn't mean to sound like this, just thought you should know)