How do I convince my mom to let me take BJJ lessons?

Question

I've been wanting to take Brazilian Jiu Jitsu lessons for a really long, but my mom says she thinks it's too violent. How do I convince her it's the right thing to do?

Answer 1

Tell her the main point in you wanting to do it is self discipline. Many people have the conception that martial arts are violent, but they are only violent if the participants choose it to be violent. Jiu-jitsu is a great form to learn because it also teaches you to defend yourself in the worst positions during a fight. Not only that, but it will cause you to have better control of your life and solve problems more effectively.

Show her some videos. Unlike other forms where you are struck in the face or other parts of the body, jiu-jitsu allows the person to tap out. Even getting choked does not hurt. Unless you are stubborn, you will tap right away.

Martial arts is a no lose situation. The person grows as a human being no matter what form they choose.

Answer 2

first off tell her jiu jitsu means gentle art, then tell her it's a room filled with good looking sweaty guys rolling around on the floor, then tell her there are no strikes, then tell her it's the same as wrestling.  Your best bet is to let her accompany you to a trial lesson so she can see the jiu jitsu and it's lack of violence.  And make no reference to jiu jitsu when watching mma and street fights cause most people from the generations before us think mma is human cockfighting.

Answer 3

BJJ would do nothing but prob. make you less violent than you are now, despite how much that is.  I have to agree also.   It is about maturity, self discipline, and determination also.  Yes, it teaches you fatal moves, but it teaches you when the appropriate time is to use your skills.  If you have a good instructor/ school they will also enforce rules about misusing you abilities, etc.  It's more about peace.

"Igitur qui desiderat pacem, praeparet bellum"

^ Interesting history/meaning.

Answer 4

Have her speak with the instructor, see if the instructor has a child of his own training in the art.  BJJ is not violent, it's quite the contrary.  The longer you train the more relaxed you become in aspects of conflict and the greater your confidence.  

You will never get punched in the face training in BJJ.  But you will learn how to control an aggressor, take them down and put them to sleep.  

Enjoy and go get trained up as soon as you can.  One day you will simply be able to pay for your own training. Wait if you must but stay focused on your goal.  yo are on the right track.

Enjoy!  I hope you Mom comes around for you.  Have her write me any question she likes.  I'm happy to set her mind at ease as an instructor and parent of two training kids.

KK

Answer 5

sneak up behind her jump on her back and choke her out. when she wakes up tell her how cool it was and then shell be like oh ok ill let you go now that was awesome.

Answer 6

arrange a meeting wth you, her and an instructor if hes a good one he might be able to convince her

Answer 7

Offer to pay for it yourself by doing housework, or mowing yards.

Convince her you are serious about it and mature enough to do it.

Show her a tape of kids doing Karate, TKD or any other punching/kicking art, then show her BJJ, so she sees how nonviolent it really is.

But I think a good path to take would be to step up in some responsibility which would convince her that you are mature enough to take a Martial Art, and it would convince her how serious your desire is that you would be willing to devote time and energy to do it, and make sacrifices in order to be able to do it.

In other words show her how bad you want to do it, don't just tell her, that kind of stuff goes a long way.