How do I cope / get through a horrible thing?

Question

My whole life is falling apart, and I am barely coping! I have NO ONE to talk too. I am hanging on by a thread. The only thing that is keeping me alive is my young son. Who I know will have no one if I die. How do I cope when everything in my life is falling apart so bad???

Answer 1

see a psychologist. please.

i went through a bad phase earlier in the year when my friend died... you need to see someone... try a group therapy class maybe?

Answer 2

Find someone to help you cope.  What do you mean "if you die"?  I hope you're not suicidal.  Get professional help.  This too, shall pass.

Answer 3

I really wish I knew more details about your situation!  You sound young, with a young child.

Painful times come to everyone at some point in life; what you learn after living through some of those times is that they don't last forever.  No matter how bad things are, eventually they always get better, so be stubborn and don't give in, and be patient and let time pass.  Your life will change and you will look back on this time as something you can be proud you made it through.

Don't be afraid to reach out for help and support in your community, either; lots of people who care are out there but you have to let them know that you need them.  There are all kinds of support groups, take some time to see if there's one to fit your needs.

Now this suggestion may sound strange, but I also encourage you to find something to do to help others with their problems.  If you can volunteer a couple hours here and there, some nice things usually happen.  First of all, you make new friends and in that environment they are usually very nice, caring people.  Second, you get away from your troubles by helping someone else with theirs, so you get a break from your life and get to feel good about helping someone else.  Third, you get a new perspective on your own problems -- you're not the only one having a hard time, and some people have troubles as bad or worse than yours and are struggling through just like you.

Answer 4

It sounds as though you are in terrible pain. Try to go day by day, if not minute by minute to get thru the day.  Say to yourself, I made it thru this minute; and the next.  Keep the image of your little boy's face ahead of you. He needs you. He loves you. Try 'help hotlines' if available in your town. Keep trying; the pastor, former teachers.   It sounds like a cliche but Time will help.  Been there.