How do I cope while he is away for work?

Question

Well I have been seeing a very special man for only 4 months, our relationship was just starting to really heat up when he had to go overseas for atleast a month, possibly longer. We are definately going to see each other after a month regardless, which might be a holiday over there to see him. Now I know i need to get a little perspecitve with this but i am really struggling. I am trying to be very considerate of his feelings and the fact that most of his relationships have ended because of the travel. Generally, I am a very independent person and have lived on my own for 6 years until i met him. He does travel a bit, but usually for only 4 days or so and the longest 10 days.. Anyway i am certain that we are in it for the long haul but i would love to hear from anyone whose partner/husband goes away and would love some advice. I only relocated back to my home town in November last year and have spent that time rekindling relationships with my family, then all my focus went on my new boy, meaning many of my friendships have drifted apart. Any advice would be fantastic - particularly on how to get rid of this low pitted stomach feeling of sadness!

Answer 1

the fact that you feel sad thinking your bf miles away is that you really like or love him. its very normal to be sad, i too, have a bf who travels frequently but he always have time for me once in a month. he always manage to call me everyday. maybe you and your partner need to discuss things especially about your means of communication before he goes overseas. discuss with each other what you two are expecting from one another once he will move outside the country. its nice that before he leaves, both of you knows where to stand and what to hope with each other. if possible, both of you should take an oath and re-assure yourselves with the love and security you two are feeling. try it, it may lessen the sadness...

Answer 2

Find a hobby that you enjoy doing. That way your mind will be doing something besides thinking about him. I do not recommend reading omance novels, that would only make matters worse. Maybe volinter at a retirement center,hospital, cancer hospital, Red Cross, something of these natures.Any thing to fill up you time to keep your mind occupied. I hope this will be of some help to you. Good Luck.