How do I deal with a Jealous mate?

Question

How do you cope with an extremely jealous mate that thinks they're never wrong about anything, there is a 16 yr age difference that may be part of the problem. When we 1st got together years ago, it was okay because I just thought they were just showing the love they had for me, but now I've gotten much older & it's no longer cute. No matter what I do it's wrong & when I speak my mind I'm asked who has been schooling me as if I can't think for myself.

Does anyone have any suggestions on ways to make this a win-win relationship?

Answer 1

you need to have a heart to heart conversation and ask why is this being done and let them know how it is affecting your relationship.If this doesn't work, you might have to let them go!

Answer 2

win win relationship.....dump him

the sixteen years he has on you makes him feel he has more experience than you and he will never fully respect your opinion

Answer 3

You are not his mate, you are his possession.  You cannot have thoughts other than his because he did not teach them to you.  When you were a young girl with stars in your eyes, it probably was romantic for someone to "care" so much.  I think that the only reason your ages matter in your case is because he chose his victim with care so he could train you.  It was never on his agenda for you to grow up.  But since you have grown up, ask yourself why you want to stay in such a lopsided relationship that doesn't even "allow" you to have friends?  Girl, if I were you, I would RUN to the nearest safe place and stay there.  I don't think that this man would let you go easily.

Answer 4

Dump them,doesn't sound like anything is going to change there.

Answer 5

I would not be friends with them. It seems like they THINK your stupid.  

Answer 6

don't be her frend