How do I deal with a really annoying person?

Question

I met this woman and she has latched onto me. We both have kids and our youngest are 10 months and 5 months. Mine being 10 months. Anyways, she brags all the time and all she ever talks about is how beautiful her baby is. It is terribly annoying. The kid was sleeping with his finger in the air and she proclaimed how beautiful he is and she is always fishing for compliments. To be honest, the baby is really not cute and her constantly seeking attention is a real turn-off. If people compliment my baby, I say thanks and move on. She seeks the attention of others and tells strangers her whole life story. How the baby was an oopsie..but not really cause they weren't using birth control..and WHO THE h**l CARES! Tonight she called and was telling me how her kid can roll one way and I told her that my middle son rolled fairly early..3 months and then she chimed in on how her first kid rolled at a month old. For s***s sake! I think she is over exaggerating and flat out lieing on many things. She is just not the kind of person that I like to be friends with as she is all about herself. The other day she chimed on on what a perfect pregnancy she had, birth blah-blah. And how the doctor came in and said that her kid is the most beautiful baby he had ever seen. That was a lie..and I know it. She is competetive with the babies and it is not a pleasure to get together with her. My question is, what can I do and I already know to limit contact with her, but how can I do that without having a big falling out?

Answer 1

I totally know the type of person you're talking about.  It seems like when you're a parent you are all of a sudden faced with all these new personalities you never knew existed.  It's like, yes we all love our kids, but some people take it WAYYY too far.  I always want to tell them, "oh wow, that's so cool that Tommy/Jane walked at 8 months and said their ABC's at 12 months.  Guess what, this is crazy!  This morning my daughter brought me breakfast in bed, complete with toast, coffee, an egg sunny side up, and bacon...AND SHE'S ONLY 2 MONTHS OLD!"  Wink wink, nudge nudge.  I've never been brave enough to use it but it sure would be a h**l of a line, wouldn't it?

Answer 2

just be too busy, and if she ever suggests something for the day either blame it on the kids or husband. They are sick, tired, behaving badly. Or the husband is lonely, having a bad time at work and needs support. Just always be busy. Erase her number on your phone so that you can say you "lost it" when one of the babes played with the phone and hit a button.

This works great when my mom calls (she is very judgmental about my parenting style and hates that I grew up and married).

She'll eventually get the hint that you just don't want to deal. Or she will not want to hang out with you because you aren't being a good friend, and she has more important things to do besides wait around for you.

Good Luck

Answer 3

That sounds like Deja Vu for me. I have gone through that before and even to this day deal with it..a woman in mommy and me class has a son that is 3 months younger than my son and constantly comparing and trying to 1 up me and my son. I gave up trying to deal with it so i just started saying "Thats great...." and started up conversations with the other moms or would follow up with "Well i must be going i have some important stuff to do" she finally got the hint and realized that i didnt care about the difference in our children, to each his own i was just glad i have a happy and healthy baby boy that loves me as much as i love him. Just hold your breath and ignore what she says, learn from the men in the world and use selective hearing.

Answer 4

Get busy!  Have doctor's appointments, meetings at church, date nights with your hubby.  Be busy.  On the phone, have to go -- the baby is hungry, I have to go.  The baby is napping, and I need to rest.  By limiting contact, she'll either get the hint, or find some other poor soul to latch onto.  Good luck!

Answer 5

Unless you absolutely have to deal with this woman for some reason like you work together or whatever I would just totally blow her off. Who cares if its a falling out as long as you get rid of her, right? Somebody that egotistical isn't going to be able to take a hint. Just come right out with it next time she gets irritating. It will feel good too.

Answer 6

Sounds like a bad situation to be in. Yes she sounds very annoying. I would just avoid her calls and her company as much as possible. Hopefully she will just get the hint on her own so you wont have to be mean. If she doesn't take the hint. Just tell her you are really busy, tell her you started a new hobby or are taking a class or something.

Good luck!

Answer 7

You can be honest with her.  The next time she call just say "it seems to me that our friendship has turned into more of a competition.  I don't think this is a healthy way to hold a friendship and I wish nothing but the best for you and your family".  When she says she doesn't understand simply say "I am sure you don't realize this, but you have a habit of having to one up everything I do or say and it makes me question your honesty.  I am sorry if I am wrong about this, however, right now I think it is best we part ways.  I wish you the best.  Goodbye."  Hang up.  It sounds cruel, but honesty is the best policy and maybe she will learn from her mistakes.

Answer 8

IGNORE HER!! OR YOU COULD p**s HER OFF SO SHE WON'T WANT TO TALK TO YOU ANYMORE

Answer 9

well personally, i would snob her right back.

id be like oh well my baby is just so perfect, his no trouble what so ever his just the perfect baby ive ever SEEN. she will get angry by that and stop talking to u

this works trust me, if she keeps saying how good her baby is, just keep annoying her about how good ur baby is