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How do I deal with backstabbing co workers?

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I work in a retail store that is mainly men, aside from one other female. She is constantly saying negative, bad things about me behind my back to just about everyone I work with. I even gave her the opportunity to speak up about performance issues at our weekly meeting and she said "I'm doing great"

I get tired of hearing from everyone that she talks so much smack, but she doesn't have the guts to say anything to my face? She has actually gone as far as saying she is going to call our HR and file a complaint about me being able to take a maternity leave, because she didn't think it was fair I got one and was able to have my job back. It's one of those situations where someone is always looking over your shoulder waiting for you to s***w up then they turn right around and make sure they tell someone when you do. (Pretty much everyone else says I'm doing a wonderful job, but I'm tired of the back stabbing.) What do I do?

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  1. just ignore her. spread your positive energy to every other person. soon, they will attach no value to her words. stay cool. you got your maternity leave as token for recognition of the good work you have done. you deserve it. so, you got it. think how happy your company is to have you back... when ther are people who quit, after just taking maternity benefits from the company. be proud. such silly people are everywhere. they are losers.

    i have gone through this and this is what i found the best method to overcome such problems.

    Be positive. spread cheer everywhere. That is the key.  hope this helps... Good luck. and best wishes for you baby !!


  2. i deal that problem at school to but thuis are the things i do:

    -call your boss and prove that what she says is false

    -ignore her

    -get another job

    -backstabb her

  3. Just smile at them.

    It'll drive them crazy.

    They'll think you know something they don't.

    :)

  4. randomly cuss her out.

    or tp her .. I just did that to a person I wrk with she's a ******

  5. YOU go to HR first and let this be know YOU ARE BEING HARASSED

    I am so glad I caught you on here.  A lady at the hospital where I work was having almost your identical problem.  The lady was so two faced about harassing her behind her back.

    She went to HR first and said she wanted to file verbal harassment charges against the lady.

    They TAKE THESE THINGS SERIOUS.

    You are thinking the wrong way about this, YOU are the one that needs to go to HR.

    We all had to go to attend Harassment in the Workplace films and speeches put on by HR

    She is putting herself in deep do do by doing this.

    Stop looking over your shoulder, you are being harassed and feeling threatened because you are pregnant.

  6. Whatever you do, don't give her any ammunition against you.  Just do your job and people will figure her out in due time.

  7. I agree with Susie Q. wholeheartedly.  Call her out on it, maybe she'll shut the h**l up!

    Also, don't let her petty bs get to you though...you do a good job, she is always the one complaining - everyone will notice that.

  8. Take the high road. Eventually people like this are noticed and will be dealt with. Untill then, hope every night before you go to bed that she contracts some ilness. I have people like that at my work.

  9. Go to her and say, "It has come to my attention that you have a problem with me.  I would like to discuss that.  If you don't want to discuss this with me, then I would appreciate you not talking behind my back anymore.  Everything you say gets back to me."

  10. Hmmm, you could ask her in one of those meetings.  Tell her you've heard that she had some issues with the work that's going on.  Don't try to make it about you, just sort of try to confront her in a nice way if it's really bothering you.  Ask her if she really has a problem with the company or something, because being able to take a maternity leave is everywhere, and she needs to realize that.

    I hate people like this too.  Otherwise, I'm sorry to say you may just have to deal with her.  It is nice that you know everyone else appreciates you, but there's always going to be one stick in the mud that has to complain about everything.

  11. You know what?  Continue doing a great job ,even greater  so that backstabber couldn't have of what talking **** about!, just continue your way, do the best you can in your work and let her continue dying in her jealous vice of envy.

    THe people that surround you will know what is true and what isn't

    Dont worry ;)

    Good luck

  12. You should report her to your boss if it gets out of hand and besides if worst comes to worst i dont think that just one person can get you fired ;)

  13. If you were doing anything wrong and inappropriate, your manager would tell you, so the best thing you can do in this situation, is ignore this B*TCH!  

    She apparently feels the need to belittle and complain about her only competition - which is really, at the core of her complaints (she's jealous of the great job you're doing).

    Be the better person and just ignore what you hear she's saying about you etc.   It may take a while, but you can do it.  The other thing that really works in this situation, is "kill 'em with kindness" - - meaning smile at her and just be a bit super friendly - - this will let her know without mentioning any of her c**p - that she's not getting to you!   Eventually, she may just give her notice because she feels like the oddball out and no one is responding to her bullsh*t :-).

    Be happy in your job, for life is too short, and when you work with a creep like this, just pretend you have your armor on, and therefore, you're not going to pay attention to the backstabbing, because you can't feel it!

  14. be cooler than her.

    go up to her at work,  say " hi "

    her " hi , what's up ? "

    just stare at her for three seconds, and say " that's what i thought  . "   and walk away

    its funny to you, and confusing to her, have at work , its only work.

  15. Try to be her friend.  It sounds like she is jealous of you and maybe feels you are better.  Include her in conversations and if she knows she is not hurting you it will spoil her fun.  But once you are friends you may like each other.  But if she has a poisonous personality try not to let it make you that way and try not to get caught up in her office politics.

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