How do I deal with being 19 and wanting a kid more than anything?

Question

I'm 19 & want a child more than anything. I know I'm certainly not financially ready, don't have a significant other, still live at home, etc. I wouldn't be able to provide my child with the life I want to provide him/her with. I'd miss out on a lot of my youth. I know all that, and I STILL want a kid more than anything.

I work at a daycare & have babysat almost constantly since I was 11. Children are the one area of my life I truly feel confident in.

I can't explain how much I want a kid. I have always been a very good teen. No drugs or drinking, no sleeping around, never a rebel. I've always had common sense & a good head on my shoulders, but I've also never wanted anything this badly.

This longing has been getting stronger & stronger over the past year & I feel almost like I can't control it. Nothing else in my life fills the void I feel--not friends, not family, not work, not school.

I'm NOT going to have a child yet, but how do I deal with such a strong desire to have one?

Answer 1

Adopt a child

Answer 2

get a stable job find a significant other and enjoy life

Answer 3

Consider the pros and cons about having a baby at this age.

And maybe you can adopt a baby.

Theres alot of kids out there that need good homes :]

Idk if this helped that much.

But I hope everything works out for you.

Answer 4

maybe get like a puppy?

they require work just like a new born baby :)

or become a nanny and you'll be around kids all day!

Answer 5

Dont "fight" the feelings...just dont act on them. Your feeling of desire is OK...lots of people have felt as you do.  I'm glad you recognize that you cant care for a child right now. You are MILES ahead of those who cant afford a child but go ahead and have one anyway. BRAVO!!!!!!!!!!!

The cost is not only financial...its spiritual, emotional and physical.

Answer 6

Take a single father that has custody of his kid(s) as a boyfriend and see how things work themselves out.

Just a thought.  Good luck.  :)

Answer 7

just wait a few more years and for now just try to keep ur mind off of kids

Answer 8

Adopt one! =)

Answer 9

I know that feeling all too well. I myself have worked at daycares and preschools, done field work for my education degree, etc. Basically see it as this: Decide a goal. Say you want to get a degree. And, overall think of the longterm goal as being able to give your child financial security and a good life. That's how I look at it and it helps, as time progresses it gets easy. I was crazy about it too at 19 but definately now i have passed that phase and can definately wait on children haha! So like  Isaid think of a goal that would lead to the financial security of your child and focus on that such as school and that will calm your thoughts for a while. Also, focus on trying to find a significant other but don't get too into it that if it doesn't work out you get upset. You have plenty of time, you ar eonly 19!