How do I deal with being ugly?

Question

I'm a nice person I make people laugh. Boys at school don't care about that. The better girls always get picked over me. I never knew how ugly I was until I started high school. Every time I feel good about myself others bring me down. I'm shy and never talk in class because I don't want to be laughed at. I self harm because I hate myself a lot. I'll describe myself for you.

I'm 5'6

Pale skin

Small lips/nose

Wavy dark black hair with bangs

I have small brown eyes. I weigh 206 pounds but I'm buying a treadmill on saturday to lose weight.

Answer 1

Be LOUD!

Join CLUBS!

Eat HEALTHY!

Answer 2

start working out..try to bring out ur best features..not to much makeup but enough to make a difference

Answer 3

are you even sure that you're ugly? i spent many years thinking i was because thats what other people told me. if you base who you are on what other people think of you, you'll never be happy with yourself. life is too short to spend it trying to please other people. dont worry theres someone out there for you and everyone else. and it doesnt matter if you look like beyonce or angelina jolie, what matters is whats on the inside. i know you hear that a lot, but it really is true!  

Answer 4

don't worry i'm ugly as well ...i just don't leave the house and think about suicide alot even though i daren't do it

Answer 5

I don't think you are ugly. someone who can make people laugh couldn't be ugly. anyway, here is how you can lose some weight easily. organic unrefined coconut oil and apple cider vinegar. take a little of the latter before each meal and a spoon full of the oil in the morning and one late evening. and maybe you can do something about that bang and why not change the colour of your hair, or maybe just highlights. yes that's it, highlights. you will feel much more confident.

Answer 6

you dont sound ugly at ALL.

please be confident, and stop hurting yourself

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Answer 7

i don't know if this helps but right now (five years after high school) i look back at the "pretty" girls, and they're not that pretty. Some of the "ugly" girls are the most gorgeous people I know. No joke. It's like a butterfly coming out of it's coccoon. Don't worry, and for god's sake stop hurting yourself, that will only make you look worse in the boy's eyes.

Answer 8

I thougth i was ugly to  untill my good friend Alyssa said "Alaina your beautiful" and from then on i saw my self as pretty and my self essteem grew tremendesly! good luck

Answer 9

sounds like the weight is your only problem. i hate how that kills peoples self confidence...like mine. anyways...it sounds like you are dealing with it by getting a treadmill. you should be fine after you're happy with yourself :) good luck

Answer 10

don'tt let the boys get you  down cause you arebeautiful in gods site don'tt rush things you will finds the right person soon but don;t rush it just be yourself

Answer 11

You have to love yourself in this skin!

1) Eat healthy and exercise

2) Use Jergens tanning lotion (like Beyonce')

3) Ask your parents to get your hair and nails professionally done

4) Wear lipgloss and carry concealer

5) Surround yourself with happy, confident people

Answer 12

You just gotta love yourself for who you are. When you start loving yourself is when people start seeing you as beautiful. If you can't love yourself like that then you must work to love yourself somehow. Don't do it the wrong way or anything! :]

Answer 13

If your still in high school you have to realize that you are still young and have alot more maturing to do!  You will need professional help of your hurting yourself.  Concentrate on your good qualities and remember that you have your whole life ahead of you!  Do I have to tell you the "Ugly Duckling" story?!

Answer 14

You should watch Joel Osteen. I'm not religious AT ALL, but I absolutely love this guy, you can watch his seminars for free on you tube. Watch this and I hope you feel better. He always uplifts me, its so true it makes me cry sometimes... http://nz.youtube.com/watch?v=4ZyCamZCLy...

Not just "ugly" people feel bad, I feel ugly on the inside at times too.  

Answer 15

Wow.

At least you have a face. Say thank God before something happens...

Look at this poor girl:

http://www.breakthechain.org/exclusives/...

Jacqueline Saburido.

Look her up.

Answer 16

yeah

boys can be jerks when it comes to looks

don't let those people bring you down!

Try to bring out your best features

plus try to be more out going and make friends with girls AND boys, maybe you'll get a boy friend from there.

try to be more positive about things

I'm sure your not as ugly as you tell yourself

be positive,happy,healthy, things will fall into place eventually

Answer 17

Do not allow others to bring you down. Just because they may say something that hurts you doesn't mean it's true.

Try to work on your shyness.  Start making easy conversations with people.  If you are sure you know the answer to something in class, raise your hand.  There would be no reason for people to laugh if you give the correct answer.  Try to manage your self hate in some other way.  If you self harm, you will be stuck with scars that will only make you hate yourself even more.  Please don't hurt yourself.  Your body does not deserve this.  

Answer 18

your personality is beautiful, I am sure you are beautiful.... you don't have to be the most pretty or the slimmest, a nice personaltiy and confidence are beautiful and if the boys can't see that then they're not worht it. I am sure you are very beautiful and this sounds like a cry for help, please please please try to stop self harming it will make you very ill indeed.  

Answer 19

Please stop hurting yourself. talk to a parent, teacher or other adult you trust and get help.

You are beautiful.  Can you get involve din a club or group outside of school - go there be yourself and gain some self confidence then you will see you are not ugly.

But great idea on the treadmill - exercise is very empowering and you will feel great.  

Answer 20

You are not ugly !

Thats just how you think.Here's a trick

everyday write 10 goood things about yourself like

how pretty your hair is and look in the mirror and  pretend

youre model. trust me you are prettier than you think .

Dont let people think youre ugly . They are taking thier insecurites

on you .

Answer 21

a) wear a mask

b)get plastic surgery

c)put a bag over your head

d)dont look in the mirror

Answer 22

You might think you are ugly but some may not.

If you keep looking down on yourself you will get even worse. I am sure if you get off the computer and find some new friends you will be fine. You seem like a great person on the inside and to your surprise not all guys want the good looks. They are looking for love and I am sure if you put you're head up you'll find it.

Answer 23

I Would Say Pay No Attention To The Boys And Other Girls Who Pick On You.... I Was Like That Once But Now I Kind Of Believe In Myself Because The Nicestest Boy In My Class told Me The Other Day That I Wasnt Fat And That I Was Fit And Was Really Nice Everyone Here Is Belevieing In You, You Sound Really Nice!

Just Stop Hurting Yourself... I Find Hurting Yourself Upsets You More!

(Good Luck ! =D)

Answer 24

I hate to break it to people this way...but look at Tyra Banks she was ugly as a kid...now she is most guys fantasy and some girl lol.

In other words maybe you have not found your style..I use to feel I was ugly...I changed my hair style from pig tales to wearing it down..my shoes from tennys to sandal and hills, and stop wearing pants and start were skits.

And guys went crazy they girls wanted to kick my a.s.s even my best friend got mad at me :-) but o'well she got over it and I found a look that suits me.

Answer 25

wow, i'm 14 years old and i can honestly say i would much rather hang around somebody that makes me laugh than some hot girl that i have no fun being around.  

Yeah, just get some pounds off and the guys at ur school will be going after you, as long as you keep up that personality.

OH! and don't hurt yourself, that's a terrible thing, DON'T DO IT!!

Answer 26

The people who matter most, your true friends, won't care if you're ugly or beautiful.  They love you for YOU, not if you are a size 1.  

I know it's hard, but stop caring so much what people think about you.  Don't stop caring for yourself, but don't care so much whether they think you're hott or not.  

Harming yourself is NOT the way to go.  If you really want to change yourself, harming your body is not helping.  

=)

Answer 27

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Answer 28

if you want others to think of you as pretty, you have to start with yourself.

Answer 29

I think that a lot of that will go away with time. You hear a lot of stories of how celebs got picked on in High School and now they're beautiful, or they were the "ugly duckling" and now they're HOT. It may be hard... but keep your head up and realize true beauty is how you act, how you treat others, and your personality- I think a lot of that comes with maturity and age. Good Luck!!  

Answer 30

Ya i'd like to judge on a picture to, big people can be beautiful too, idk how you should deal with it because i don't like the way i look either.

Answer 31

I know this doesn't help right now, but don't judge yourself based on what other people thought/think about you while you're in high school.

If you ask anyone over 25 years old, they'll probably say that they hated being a teenager.  We're pretty much all ugly ducklings at that point in life.

Now if you're 45 and you're ugly...you're probably screwed.