How do I deal with jealousy?

Question

There's this girl I met several years ago. She moved all the way to the other side of the country. Even though she left we continued to stay in touch through email and for the past year IM. We IM pretty much everyday often for several hours.

Recently school started for her and she continues to talk about this cute boy that rides her bus. Lately they've gotten a lot closer and closer and she suspects that he might like her back. This is great news for her, but everytime she talks about this boy i feel really REALLY jealous.

I WANT to be happy for her because she's my friend, but I just can't bring myself to do it. And now I'm starting to resent this boy.

The thing is I haven't seen her in YEARS and my memory of her is becoming more and more blurry and when I try to think of her I can't picture her very clearly.

What should I do to get over my jealousy? I don't want to lose her as a friend and I really want to be happy for her.

Please note that I'm a 15 year old teenager and I'm willing to accept that this may be lust. If you think so don't just say I'm lusting over her, please tell me how I can fix this.

Answer 1

You need to find a girlfriend closer to home.

Answer 2

Even though she moved away years ago, the friendship has continued,

and you value it.

Don't you see that that is not going away just because she likes this guy.

She confides in you. She talks to you like a 'best friend'.

You've still got that. If she moved away that long ago, and you're 15 now, you never had anything else.

You can't lose what you never had. Keep what you've got.

Continue to be a friend and confidant, and get yourself a love interest

closer to home.

Answer 3

if you really want to be happy for her, than you should support her and help her with this guy.  don't be bitter about it with her though.

school's starting so maybe you can meet someone new.

good luck :)

Answer 4

if you want to be happy for her you wont be jealous. if u really want to be with her then go for it man. you got to follow your heart. but dont let ur brain go to far away either. sounds like u have alot of thinking to do my man.

Answer 5

Sorry I have to put it this way.

She's gone. It sucks but we all must move on. Im her is great. But you should find a GF or a really good friend.

If she can find a really great friend, why can't you. No one is holding you back.