How do I deal with my 6 year old girls attitude?

Question

How do I deal with my 6 year old girls attitude?

Answer 1

I am glad that you asked this! My eight year old today has been giving attitude for her 3'rd day in arow. I decided that today it stops here!!!!!

really it wears me down and I just can't allow that. She has been so dramatic right from birth. From age 4 she would give attitude and that good stuff. I just won't allow that.

Today I made her 'work it off'. This does several things... it gets her busy and moving around.... it gets my house clean, and it motivates her to knock it off. She did about 3 hours of chores today. One for every thing.

For screaming when mad, she wrote 3 paragraphs on how to positively deal with frustrated feelings

For rude facial expression adn rolling the eyes, she wiped down the base boards

For arguing, getting the last work and insisting she is right about everything, she had to wipe down all the registers.

Etc. etc. It took her 3 hours. And than she wanted to go to the park! no way! I said that is a privelege. Maybe tommorow depeding on her attitude... which is excellent right now. she is trying to earn going to the park.

Really all you can do is 1 -2 -3  than chore, timeout, or toy in the garbage

when she is being really awesome I also give her lots of rewards... we have some pretty cool reward charts up.

Also, I make sure that she gets hugs and 'gets' that she is a good kid who made a bad choice... not a bad kid.

Answer 2

Who taught her the attitude?  Who skimpped on the discipline when she was smaller?

You need to set rules, need to set boundaries and you need to call her on her attitude, give her time outs for her attitude.  And do it over and over and over.

Answer 3

What kind of attitude?  You are the parent...be one.  You are not there to be her friend...you are her mother, teacher, protector and everything else that you can be.

6 years old and an attitude?  No way!  Stop it now...you let her know you are the parent.  If she acts up when you are out...leave IMMEDIATELY and forget YOUR chores or fun and take her home.  Find a babysitter if you can't take her..and when the babysitter is there make sure she is in the house and can't do anything...no tv..no PlayStation and no computer etc.    She shouldn't be rewarded....that is for sure.

You have to REMOVE her from any situation she is acting out on and punished. If you are in a movie....TAKE HER OUT...if you are in a store...TAKE HER OUT...if you are at a party...TAKE HER OUT....if you are at dinner...TAKE HER OUT IMMEDIATELY.   You let her know that it doesnt' matter if you miss out on something....but she is NOT getting away with telling YOU and manipulating YOU into feeling sorry for her and saying....ok..we will deal with this later.  Later means nothing to children...they don't know the cause and effect at that age.  You do it IMMEDIATELY!

NO TV and no Play station and nothing else....again...she has to face her consequences.  It won't take long.  You have to change her behavior...and that means changing yours too.  YOU have to be willing to be strong so she knows who is boss.

If you are having dinner at home and she is acting up...make her stop eating and go to her room.  REMOVE THE TV AND EVERYTHING ELSE...that is not a place to go to when there are things in there for her to do !  Those are privileges...not necessities.

If she cries...let her cry...IN HER ROOM!  don't get mad...don't over react and don't talk to her until she changes her attitude.  She thrives on drama and reaction...and you give it to her.

Strip her of all her toys etc and when she is good for a couple days give her one thing.  If she continues to do good..give her one more...she will soon associate the proper behavior gives her what she wants...and bad behavior gets nothing.

You can start a chart...and every day if she is good give her  a star.  At the end of the week...if she has all stars then you can take her to the movies or give her a toy back.  But make her earn it...do NOT give it to her to shut her up.  YOU are changing behavior....it is hard and it will take time...and it takes a lot of commitment.  

Also let her know you love her...give her lots of love and assurance that she will get through this!  Don't tell her she is bad...too many children are told they are bad and they think something is wrong with them.  She has a problem which is in part due to your reactions and probably giving in to her too much because it was a wrong time or you wanted her to be quiet etc.  DO NOT GIVE IN TO HER ONCE or you might as well not even start it.  She needs boundaries and it is up to you to set them out so she can see them and know them.  Then stick to them...ALL the time!

Answer 4

Let's see.......I have 4 children.

My son is 10.

My daughters are 9, 9 and 8.

Ignore her bad behavior. Use the nanny 911 method and put her in time out.

Take away things she likes, but don't over use this system.

Do get this under control now and don't give in or it'll just get worse.

Don't use guilt trips, they backfire.

Good Luck!

Answer 5

Listen to Sarah B, those are some very good ideas. Have you told your girl that what she does is wrong? If not, tell her, scold her, and if you need to, yell. Do time outs work? If not, try grounding, and take away certain priveliges. (like TV, computer, game boy, dolls, etc..) Give her a week grounding. (more or less, depending on what she did to earn it.) If nothing else is working, then next time she disobeys a direct order, or you have told her more than twice to do something and she doesnt, then take her to her room, and give her a spanking. Leave her in her room with no toys, and ignore her screaming and crying. Give her some time to cool off. Come up in ten minutes and explain to her what she did to earn her spanking, why you did what you did, and tell her that shes a big girl, and big girls get big girl punishments. Tell her next time she does that again, she will get a sore bum. Tell her this in a stern, but calm voice. Hope this helps!

Answer 6

Be strict with her. Reward her good behaviour, but also take things away from her that she enjoys, for example, dolls, when she is bad.

Don't GIVE things to her, make her work for them and earn them.

Answer 7

i would give her a good old fashion spanking that helps with additude problems     i have a 5 year old who used to give me an additude then i spanked her for a long time and she hasnt given me an additude for over a year

Answer 8

If she is Terrible, I have a 6 year old sister, and when she is terrible throwing silverware and stuff at me, or jumping on me while I am laying down. I slap her on the hand where it hurts and put her in some kind of corner. Sometimes they'll cry and beg not to go, but ask them "Are you going to be good? Are you going to jump on me? Are you going to throw forks at me? Ima write you up!"

Answer 9

just be stern but not mean.show her that you are serious and not messing about. when she is bad make her know that it was wrong but dont be too harsh she is only 6. but when she is good reward her and show her that ypur proud.

Answer 10

be open and honest

make sure you know whats cuasing it

talk more

take away privlages is needed

tell her what she is doing wrong and why

become more strict