How do I deal with my overprotective parents?

Question

My best friend of over 10 years has invited me to go to her cottage for the week. I asked them if I could go and they started saying that something was going to happen to me, I'll get hurt, etc. It annoys me so much, they always let their fears stop me from doing what I would like to do. I understand that they worry, and that they are only trying to protect me, but I just feel like I can't do anything. I'm always left out, my friends are always allowed to do stuff but I never can, I'm always left behind.

Answer 1

You dont know the meaning over "over protective". I was/am seventeen-years-old, and my mother wants me in by ten pm on weekends no matter what. She calls over five times even though I call her. I had a date get so pissed off because my phone continously rang from her. I mean its awkward you know? My friend was going to a concert WITH HER MOTHER and she did not let me go because "I could get hurt." That just crosses the line at 17 I cant go somewhere where someone's mother is going to be.

She takes parenting advice from people with 12-14-year-old daughters. I was not even allowed to go out at all, but she keeps it from my father and this makes her think she is the most amazing parent in the world. To be honest, she fails, miserabley.

Answer 2

Kinda the same thing was going on with me. I over-heard my mom talking to one of her friends when i was 13. And they were talking about kids and stuff, and something came up about me traveling on a plane by my self to New York to see one of my friends. She said she let me go because I was mature for my age and that she could trust me.

Maybe your parents feel they need to baby you, because they think your a bit young or a bit innocent or childish? Judging by how you wrote your question I would say that wasn't true. But I don't know you lol>3.

Try proving to your mom and dad that you can be trusted and mature. Try doing extra chores around the house, babysitting, maybe even cooking dinner? Little things, and prove you are mature and they can trust you. Sit with your parents, agree on proving your self to them, and agree on some terms if they'll you go, like cell phone charged at all times, call in the morning and at night. Then they might be a bit more at ease about.

Good luck and hope I've helped x x x

Answer 3

i know exactly how you feel that's what my parents were like just tell them how you feel and get your best friends parents to speak to your parents about it  

Answer 4

just tell them that your not a liitle kid anymore and you can keep yourself from getting hurt and stuff

Answer 5

You'd have to think about a few things here....how old are you? Will there be adult supervision there?  Assuming that you are young and there wouldn't be adult supervision there...I wouldn't let you go either

Answer 6

my parents act the same way until i got mad n told them how i felt in their faces. my mom was so surprised n my dad couldn't believe it n i was screaming n faking cries......... so try telling them how u feel

Answer 7

I know it really sucks now that your parents are strict, but it's only coz they love you and want to protect you from all the rubbish in the world!

Can you get your best friends mum to write a letter of invitaton to your parents? If the invitation is coming from an adult not from you, I think it would make the whole think seem more 'safe' from your parents point of view.

Answer 8

Having overprotective parents seems too shadowing sometimes, but your parents are only doing their job. They love you and want you to be safe. From the parents' point of view, everything is potentially dangerous for their child. However, it all depends on the child. How old are you? If you are or over 14, then I think it's fine you can go to your friend's cottage, with parent supervision. Have your best friend's parents call your parents, and explain the rules and procedures. If you have been best friends with this girl for ten years, then your parents should be comfortable with the idea of visiting. Also, you should not be jealous about what your friends can do. You should be grateful you have parents who care so much about you. There are other girls over the U.S, who have parents who don't care about them at all. These girls end up as underage mothers, with no supportive father, money, or a real home for their baby.  

Answer 9

well i don't know how old you are but if ur 12 or younger then i agree with ur parents but if your 13 or older than you should be trusted. is there any adults going? tell your parents that this is a way you can prove to them that you can be trusted and stand on our own two feet.

hope this helps good luck.

Answer 10

Tell them to stuff it and go anyway. muha