How do I deal with my twin brother?

Question

My maternal twin brother, William, bugs the h**l out of me.

We actually get along great and he's one of my best friends, but I get so jealous of him.

For instance: He got all B's and C's on his report card while I got C's and D's. I was friends with this girl for a while, and just when I worked up the nerve to ask her out and she KNEW I liked her, she turned around and asked him out [and I was the one to pick up the pieces after her last girlfriend dumped her, and be her friend, and everything]. He said no to her and we both stopped talking to her, but it still bugged me.

He's way cuter than me, even my mom calls me a butterface [which isn't completely true, because I'm not even skinny enough to be a butterface].

We both have guitars, he can play his right, I can't. He's learning Japanese faster, I'm not. He's an amazing soccer player, I'm an amazing procrastinator.

I love him to death, and he's not a pain about anything at all. In fact, he always tells me how great I am and all that [even if there's nothing to be proud of]. I shouldn't be jealous, but when I look at what little talents I have and then how much he can do, I get so mad. And I shouldn't.

Any ideas on how I can stop being so jealous and just appreciate him?

Answer 1

Try an focus on what your good at. And if there's nothin that your good at (which might i add i really doubt) Practice, to make yourself better...Just know that you being jealous and self loathing is gonna 1 put a strain on you and your bothers relationship and  waste a lot time/LIFE...that you could be doing other things..

Answer 2

the best way to get rid of a problem is by using a shotgun!

Answer 3

well just dont compare yourself to him.

you are youself and he is himself.

just because you guys are twins doesnt

mean you have to be the same. dont

compare yourself to him but instead,

focuse on the things you like to do and love.

you both have different personalities, maybe youre

better at art than sports,, dont worry about it.

:)

Answer 4

i have a sister and some days i could kill her, but my advice to you is to stop comparing your self to him. one day you will find that you can do something he can't.  my sister gets better grades than me, but i have better social skills than her. just be yourself and you will soon find something your better at.  

Answer 5

Thomas C. obviously has some problems. That is NOT the answer, do not listen to him.

You should just try to focus on yourself, and fixing all flaws you have about yourself. Don't worry about him, he outshines you just because he is taking care of himself as a person. You should, too. Just be yourself, don't be anyone else, and especially don't try to be him or have his style.

Answer 6

well you need to be confident of your self. and you and him r different so u will find something to get him jealous  

Answer 7

i have a sister who looks like me totally even if she is not my twin...sometimes we fight but most of the time we are okay...just be positive towards him and yourself. Don't look at what he is good at, learn to appreciate yourself first :) Love yourself.  

Answer 8

I'm in the same situation. I have a twin brother, but I'm better at everything and feel awful about it. Whenever I win an award, he walks away crying and I can never feel good about it. Do you want your brother to feel the same way. Just try to embrace it and say "i'm lucky to have him, because one day I'd do anything to get him back." You'll know eachother longer than you'll know anybody in your life, and when he dies or something you'll miss him and wouldn't mind that he's better at things. I bet you can find one thing you're better than him at...focus on that!