How do I deal with the break up of my 2 year relationship?

Question

He and I have been together for 2 years, we've had a fair share of problems. I truly believe with all my heart that he is the one I'm supposed to spend my life with. However, things have been going downhill. I moved and live an hour and a half away from him. I know that he truly does love me, but we have both been unhappy. He ended it yesterday explaining to me that he has to better himself and work on being a better person and father to his 8 year old son. I came around and I agree with him, and I am so happy that he's going to work on turning his life around. But I am still hurt and I just can't help but think that this is what had to happen in order for us to be together in the long run. I just really need some advice because my hearts broken and I love him so much.

Answer 1

aaww man what a situation to be in. I can feel your pain. Keep yourself busy and find a new routine and habits. Maybe look into support groups in your area. But changing your routine is the only way to make it through it...

You never know how or what the future will become.

Sending a virtual hug

Answer 2

Keep your eyes forward and move on. The sooner you get over it, the sooner you would be able to heal over this. Then you make get really lucky and fine "The One". Love is sweet. Hope this helps :)

Answer 3

Its hard for anyone to deal with a break-up. Im sorry you are going through this but its up to you and how strong you can handle this situation w/o having break down. Being in love is such a beautiful thing, if you both agreed on breaking up you agreed to let him go. You have to now deal with this and move on.

If everything was going down hill and he suddenly states he wants to break up to be a better father to his son......hmmmmm, I doubt if you were stopping him from being a father. I believe it was an excuse sweetie and you fell inside the trap.

It was a reason he wanted to break up and that excuse was not one of them.

I know you are hurting, and probably crying, but wipe those eyes, and heal up! You have a life to live!

I been through a break up where we were together for 5 yrs....I dealt with it the best way I can and moved the h**l on!

You can do it too.

If it was meant to be you may get back together, but you can't dwell on the ifs......

Everything will be alright!

Answer 4

Let me know if you figure out how to feel better. My ex of 3 years dumped me 3 months ago bc he did not love me anymore. I still love him and cry over him every day. Oh and he has a new girlfriend. Let me know if you feel better and then tell me what you did.  

Answer 5

Be positive and ask if you can help improve that relationship with his son. Smile and be nice. Make sure you are not needy and clingy demanding his time when he should be spending it with his son. I'm sure he feels guilty that he isn't there for the child so be part of the solution and not the problem. Good luck.