I am not exactly sure where I should start this at and I am sure that I will leave out something important. I am hoping that someone here will have something helpful to say about this situation. I will start with a little background information. I am married and 27 years old. I have been with my wife for over 10 years now and things have been great as far as I am concerned. I myself come from a broken home and my father left my mom for another woman he met at work when I was five years old. I had a great deal of issues with this growing up that I think I have worked through very well. I have however developed some very strong opinions and moral beliefs due in part to what I went through with my father. I will be the first to admit that I may be a little over the top when it comes to what I believe to be moral and ethical and I choose not to be around people who stray too far from it. My wife has tested these limits a few times but over all I find her close to me. Recently however some issues have come up with her sister. Her sister has recently divorced (no children involved) and has started pursuing a married man with children. This in my eyes makes her a morally bankrupt, selfish, scumbag of a person. The problem comes in that I no longer want her in my house or in my life. This would be a lot to ask of my wife so I try to be as accommodating as possible but at the same time is it fair to ask me to sacrifice my moral and ethical beliefs to accommodate another person? Furthermore the fact that my wife is talking about it with her and being supportive does not sit well with me at all. Luckily her sister does not live nearby so I have until November to get this all figured out. I am very disappointed in her because I held her I very high regard and I am troubled by the fact that my wife seems to be indifferent about the whole thing. To add to the whole mess my wife is angry that I am so bothered by this situation this makes me feel very alone and I am walking around on egg shells all of the time unable to say what I feel. It is beginning to feel like a lost cause. From what I can tell my wife’s family ranks slightly higher than me on the ladder so I am sure that if I said what I really felt I would be out. What do I do? The best thing that I can think of is to continue to hold it all in but sooner or later it is going to blow up but at the same time I do not want to make any more problems for our relationship because I need to be here for my son. I have no idea what to do.
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