How do I deal with this weird emotional issue I have?

Question

This kinda goes back into my early childhood I guess. See what happened is that my parents never really encouraged or let me keep going with any sports that we did.

Age 4: Did gymnastics and loved it, but didn't continue it.

Age 8: Did soccer and hated it giving them further motivation to not to let me do sports because "I quit" according to them.

Age 11: Did golf and loved it. Lessons didn't continue for some strange reason.

Ages 6-12: Dad never taught me to throw a football, catch a baseball, or even chuck a Frisbee so I feel socially rejected as a male because I can't do those things.

Age 11-14: Did tennis and sorta liked it, but wasn't passionate about it. On the high school team for a year and told them I didn't want to do it anymore.

Age 16: Tried swimming for a grand total of twelve days and hated it so I quit. (That was the only time I've ever officially quit a team, mind you.)

Age 18: Did fencing and loved it. But no colleges have a club team so I didn't really have the resources to continue, but that's not really anyone's fault.

And...now? I just feel upset that they didn't let me keep exploring more. I don't know. I feel angry that I never got to get a medal, or win a trophy, or be validated like that ever. It was always just academic awards. I want to have some form of physical accomplishment. I don't know if it was there mistake or mine or none of us, but I feel like I've missed out on something...

Does anyone else get me?

Answer 1

Go exercise

Answer 2

Try going and trying new things. Make it happaen for yourself. What happened was in the past, now you have a reason to actually not quit something and get a gold medal. Do it for us :D, but mainly for yourself :P I'll be rooting for you! Haha :)

Answer 3

I wouldn't say anyone is at fault. Lots of people children and adults alike "quit" things they like or dislike for many different reasons. The best you can really do is to focus on what you want now. It really isn't important as a person to have physical accomplishments. Plenty of people don't. It's not weird though if it is important to you. Just find something you like and try to stick to it. Unfortunately, at this age, I think it's pretty hard to find sports you can really excel at if you are just a beginner. I think it's more important to figure out WHY you want this so much. If it's because your parents prevented you from doing more, try and realize that many things factor into that. They may not have had the money to keep supporting the things you wanted to try, or they may have wanted to encourage you to choose one thing and see it through to the end. If that is why you want to, you should try and forgive them. If it's something else, then try to pick something now that you can succeed at and stick it out to the end!! Best of Luck to you!! =)

Answer 4

i dont think it's an issue- but the opposite - plus

you tried many things so you are like a more broad-minded

Answer 5

Maybe your special talent lies elsewhere other than atheletics, like writing or drawing perhaps.  Maybe you even have a musical ability.  Explore your hidden talents and possibilities.  You can also join a fencing team outside of college.  Get online and look for one if that's what you think your calling is.  Most of us experienced the same things throughout our childhood.  You are still young, be patient, something will come to you in time!!!