How do I develop self respect, self esteem as a 25 year old man who has a history of being self-conscious?

Question

Is it a possibility that my overbearing father has to do with my belittled self confidence?

Answer 1

Hey, you're already half way there, realizing your problem is first step of solving them right!

If you hate your current self enough, you can find it in yourself to change.

I've been seriously beaten down in society for a year and I cant remember how much I wanted to be that bright person with confidence bursting out of them.

Do what you really like (does not include watching tv!) and go deeper in it. Self respect can only come if you begin to like yourself.

So. The way I changed myself was by changing what I wore. Wear something which shows yourself off, if you don't look your best, go to gym or run on the spot in ur home with loud music blaring! Lose yourself in the music.

No one is too old to change themselves. And swear on your life that you'll let another person walk all over you. Have faith in yourself. Impossible is Nothing/Just do it!! <-- thxs Adidas&Nike.

Answer 2

Go to a bookstore and pick up books on the 3 main religions in the world and you will find your answer in one of them. God bless.

Main Religions: Christianity, Islam, and Judaism.

Answer 3

It is a matter of what you think and how you think about yourself.

One powerful way to change, but you have to be consistent and do the written exercises.

Get, read and DO this book:

http://www.amazon.com/Ten-Days-Self-Este...

Answer 4

Pay attention to the advise you've already gotten.  You may also want to try something else. People want to accept you but you need to be yourself with confidence. This may sound impossible. You can practice this as an actor, not as yourself. You can experiment with different personality traits that appeal to you untill you feel more comfortable. It is entirely likely that your father's treatment of you has much to do with how you feel but you are 25 and have had enough experience to know there are many ways to be in the world and you can make other decions about your life. It's a facinating journey.

Answer 5

You have two choices: Live under the shadow of past memories and hurts (which we all suffer at one time or another) or deal with it and move on. You can attribute certain personality traits to childhood, good and bad, then you have to focus on the present and stop dwelling on the past and using it as an excuse not to demand more of yourself. It's easy to sit back and mourn the past and injustices real and imagined, but it is counter productive and only leads you down the wrong path for happiness and fulfillment in your adult life.

Answer 6

dude, quit smoking hash

Answer 7

Read this article, it will shed a whole new light on things (and it will explain your father's behavior as well).

Don't be fooled by the title of the article (How to be Cool), it actually deals with the issue of what it really takes to gain respect from others.

You're not alone.  Good Luck