How do I ease the pain of a long distance relationship?

Question

Me and my boyfriend have been together for about a year and a half, while he lives on the Big Island of Hawaii and I live on Oahu. The plane ride from here to there is only about 40 minutes but like any long distance relationship its so hard to say goodbye and even harder to live without him... any tips?

Answer 1

get a web cam, so u two can see each other and talk all the time, it'll be like he lives...-where ever u keep ur computer-

Answer 2

my fiance and i are in a long distance relationship at the moment because of school, but will be moving in together/getting married in about a year.

let me start by saying i know how bad it hurts (we just said goodbye earlier today,actually) and will not be seeing each other for another 4 months, until the end of the semester.

we do small things to make it better, though. We're literally texting each other all day, calling and talking for hours at a time, for now that's our survival. Other small things help too, for our anniversary I sent him a box of small items that reminded me of him, and he carved me a beautiful picture frame with one of our best pictures together in it. We also set countdowns as soon as we figure out the day we're going to see each other again, and it really helps to have that to look forward to. Driving towards a goal makes things a lot easier.

honestly, it's entirely about the small things. however, eventually..something has to change. Because, long distance relationship can't be the permanent status of the situation, you know?

Don't listen to people who just say "it wont work" ..if you make the effort, and keep the communication going..it's possible. difficult, yes..but possible as long as you guys eventually plan on being together.

I know another couple who were in the same situation, and she moved to his hometown with him. They're getting married in two months, and have been together for 5 years. Don't let people tell you it isn't possible.

Keep your head up and your heart strong my dear!

Answer 3

i wish all 4 of u will be happy...

that's how long distance relationships turn out...

1-either u move with him or he moves with u...

2- endure till u can make option 1 possible (this is very unlikely to happen)

i wish u can prove me wrong... but i doubt that will happen

Answer 4

Make a decision.

Either you or him makes the move to be closer to the other

or

find someone who lives in your area.

long distance relationships rarely work. phone calls, emails, and texts are not a relationship.

Answer 5

Write letters back and forth email him and text him if you both have phones WEBCAMS WEBCAM WEBCAMS! if you miss seeing him keep a picture of him from the last time you saw him and when you do see give him all the attention and affection you can muster but make sure this is who you want to spend your life with if it is not worth it witch im sure it is then seperate for a while

Answer 6

im in a long distance relationship right now, he went to go study far away, :( - buy on labor day, i get to see him.

long distance relationship can be pretty hard sometimes, but if its meant to be, than its meant to be, - try to plan out, when you guys can see each other. - try, webcams, texts, phone. -

long distance, will be over, if you guys just work together;

communication is the key.

Answer 7

My best friend has a b/f who is currently living in Russia. they have been together for an entire yr so far, and he's only been in Russia for 3 or 4 months. Communication is important. Are you trying to maintain the relationship, or let him go?

Answer 8

Keep trying to make the best of it until you guys can be together if that is what you want some day....

1) Call him (but not too often you will flip him out)

2) Send a cute text message (like hey sunshine just wanted to tell you love you and have a good day)

3) Do things to occupy your time

4) Hang out with your friends

5) Ultimately decide if this is really what you want in a relationship.

Answer 9

just keep trying to make it work as best as you can and in the end thats all that matters

Answer 10

Time to pack up, and move. One of you has to do it, or let it go. This point there are 2 choices. If either one make you happy. Then make it a decision to move on to get over it. If it is meant to be....you make it happen, let it happen, your choice. Good luck with that, not an easy thing to do either way.

Answer 11

Get a hobby...concentrate on school, work, friends, etc...

It helps take your mind off the loneliness